tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post1132632558777100552..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: True PunishmentAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-71445532164745236292013-05-16T09:07:39.478-04:002013-05-16T09:07:39.478-04:00couldn't agree with you more, Normandie.couldn't agree with you more, Normandie. Amanda Earlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09059621442042833693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-64806653672898371082013-05-14T15:10:08.845-04:002013-05-14T15:10:08.845-04:00What Normandie said. Yes.What Normandie said. Yes.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-59320203593531113462013-05-14T11:37:42.548-04:002013-05-14T11:37:42.548-04:00me too. that was one of the first works of RG'...me too. that was one of the first works of RG's that i read. back when i started at ERWA in 2004, i believe...Amanda Earlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09059621442042833693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-74660220769893524452013-05-14T08:27:18.523-04:002013-05-14T08:27:18.523-04:00I think that withdrawing from one's partner is...I think that withdrawing from one's partner is something that occurs daily in real (not fictional) relationships across the board - vanilla or otherwise. It punishes the other partner and/or creates distance. The woman who withholds sex. The man who withholds praise or attention. Interesting scene showing that here between a Dom and sub. Love it, Lisabet!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07018242805838962649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-4835011979881317802013-05-14T08:07:30.953-04:002013-05-14T08:07:30.953-04:00We're all learning together...
Thanks for dro...We're all learning together...<br /><br />Thanks for dropping by!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-58695065980843173032013-05-14T08:06:24.064-04:002013-05-14T08:06:24.064-04:00I read the early chapters of The Waiting Room when...I read the early chapters of The Waiting Room when RG first started posting it - when I first met her - seems like eons ago. Now that it has been officially published, I definitely want to read the whole thing.<br /><br />I've never personally resonated with the "bratty sub misbehaving to get punished" scenario, though it's pretty popular. Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-66010740992652364022013-05-14T07:21:07.744-04:002013-05-14T07:21:07.744-04:00in fact the withdrawal of a dominant's emotion...in fact the withdrawal of a dominant's emotion is a very common technique in a lot of D/s fiction i've read. to control one's emotions is considered to be an important trait or a dominant. i'm going back to our personal library at home for all our intro BDSM books to see if i can talk about some of the psychology behind corporal punishment in a D/s relationship. Amanda Earlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09059621442042833693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-87711841918651427892013-05-14T07:13:40.931-04:002013-05-14T07:13:40.931-04:00i highly recommend reading Remittance Girl's f...i highly recommend reading Remittance Girl's fabulous novel, the Waiting Room. she deals with the subject of wanting & not wanting pain very well. my dominant husband has suggested that wanting to be punished comes from a conflict submissives have over accepting their submissive nature. i'm a sub myself, but i don't crave punishment or pain in any way. i live to serve & to give pleasure. i don't disobey or have to have a manufactured disobedience arranged. punishment doesn't do a thing for me. to me it would seem silly, a dynamic between parent & child rather than lovers. i don't like that at all... i respect those who want to have this kind of dynamic, who in fact, need this kind of dynamic, but it isn't for me. hmmmm perhaps that's what i should right about.Amanda Earlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09059621442042833693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-24549001023251409662013-05-14T03:09:06.410-04:002013-05-14T03:09:06.410-04:00It's all a learning process! It really pulls ...It's all a learning process! It really pulls the mind~ ..and I love reading about it, of course!Juliannanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-62735539774840084032013-05-13T23:06:34.663-04:002013-05-13T23:06:34.663-04:00I didn't intend to imply that the beating was ...I didn't intend to imply that the beating was desired. In fact that is the point. The beating with the emotional connection is fulfilling and desired, but without the emotional connection - horrible. <br /><br />Also, I didn't mean to suggest that the dominant is sulking. More like hurt and displeased by the submissive's infraction. Responsible dominants try not to take out their own negative emotions on their subs (though that's a tough challenge).Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-38189102326314727192013-05-13T23:04:20.016-04:002013-05-13T23:04:20.016-04:00I can't explain why, in some situations, physi...I can't explain why, in some situations, physical pain can be sexy. It has something to do with the dynamics I've tried to express above, the sense of enduring for the sake of devotion.<br /><br />It's a weird experience, to simultaneously want to be whipped and want it to stop. Jekyll and Hyde.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-70092127775448466162013-05-13T23:02:24.103-04:002013-05-13T23:02:24.103-04:00Thanks, Amanda!
I hope I got it right. In fact I&...Thanks, Amanda!<br /><br />I hope I got it right. In fact I've never been in exactly this situation. But I have suffered from my Master's emotional distance after I've done something to hurt or displease him.<br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-3605831774619396642013-05-13T21:42:31.944-04:002013-05-13T21:42:31.944-04:00That's such a odd thing to think of, a dominan...That's such a odd thing to think of, a dominant in a way sulking, or withdrawing his emotion even as he continues to beat you. And yet the beating continues to be desired. It's a way of thinking which is so unusual I can only imagine it. whoa.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-50384462248109805372013-05-13T11:55:23.383-04:002013-05-13T11:55:23.383-04:00Well done, Lisabet. I think I've learned somet...Well done, Lisabet. I think I've learned something here.<br /><br />This may be a tough subject for me to write about next week.<br /><br /> As many times as I read (and love, and am stimulated by) D/s, S/m stories--actual physical punishment is off the radar for me. I wouldn't hit a child (if I had one) or anybody else for that matter unless I or someone else was being hurt. I can understand how people need these things on an intellectual level, but no matter how I am able to intellectualize the reasons, I have trouble feeling any kind of sincerity (within myself) as to effect. The 'within myself' is key here.<br /><br />But perhaps this is why we write. To express with our words how this does make sense to those who can't comprehend, or to determine if the seeds of connection to another way of being are already within us.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-5506471601472879492013-05-13T06:56:43.412-04:002013-05-13T06:56:43.412-04:00thanks for starting things off with a bang, Lisabe...thanks for starting things off with a bang, Lisabet. i found your post both fascinating & stimulating. the power dynamic between those in a D/s relationship is hard to understand for many. you have offered insight into such a relationship. Amanda Earlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09059621442042833693noreply@blogger.com