tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post1150389943801853500..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Professional LiarAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-54246200486195992842012-08-19T08:24:21.939-04:002012-08-19T08:24:21.939-04:00Hi, RG,
Fascinating talk! I've read a bit abo...Hi, RG,<br /><br />Fascinating talk! I've read a bit about these studies, and I can definitely see how these findings could apply even to stories we concoct out of thin air - but certainly to tales that include some grains of truth.<br /><br />Thanks!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-37273585767507002952012-08-16T21:00:16.522-04:002012-08-16T21:00:16.522-04:00There are very good neurological reasons why the m...There are very good neurological reasons why the memories of lived experiences and the fictions we craft seem very hard to tell apart.<br /><br />Apparently, remembering is very much a 'writing' of a narrative. Real or fiction, the mechanism is very much the same.<br /><br />See <a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/daniel_kahneman_the_riddle_of_experience_vs_memory.html" rel="nofollow"> The Riddle of Experience Vs Memory</a>Remittance Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07902713020074243375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-75745338971664046222012-08-14T04:55:45.831-04:002012-08-14T04:55:45.831-04:00Juliana,
What's "too much"? How can...Juliana,<br /><br />What's "too much"? How can you measure the importance of fantasy? <br /><br />Thanks for coming by!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-16650286239986609652012-08-14T04:54:57.927-04:002012-08-14T04:54:57.927-04:00Hey, Garce,
What an interesting observation - tha...Hey, Garce,<br /><br />What an interesting observation - that knowing the story was based on truth made it arousing for you. I wonder how many other readers would have had that reaction.<br /><br />As for which item on the list is most based on reality - I'll never tell!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-15477620644070547272012-08-14T04:53:38.488-04:002012-08-14T04:53:38.488-04:00Well said, Bob!
And you did have me wondering abo...Well said, Bob!<br /><br />And you did have me wondering about your story "Mortifying Angel" in this month's ERWA....<br /><br />Who's to say that kiss didn't really happen, in some alternate reality? <br /><br />I wrote a post here a couple of years ago, to my "unborn daughter" - the child I might have had, but never did. It sure FELT real.<br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-86633874728491396972012-08-14T04:50:14.532-04:002012-08-14T04:50:14.532-04:00Thank you, Ginger!
When we're writing about s...Thank you, Ginger!<br /><br />When we're writing about something as close to the bone as sex and love, it's hard not put ourselves into our work.<br /><br />I could tell that parts of SEARCHERS were based on your own trials and desires.<br /><br />Thanks for dropping by the Grip!<br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-13347040377546351492012-08-14T04:48:45.610-04:002012-08-14T04:48:45.610-04:00Kristina,
It's a bit unnerving to realize how...Kristina,<br /><br />It's a bit unnerving to realize how unreliable my memories are. When I do a "reality check" by talking to my husband, for instance, I sometimes find I've totally misremembered an event (at least according to HIS recollections) or even worse, completely forgotten it.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-84911928290162886452012-08-14T04:47:18.381-04:002012-08-14T04:47:18.381-04:00Hi, Adriana,
Yes, I can imagine that combining th...Hi, Adriana,<br /><br />Yes, I can imagine that combining the fantasies of two individuals - especially two people who are close sexually and emotionally - would just make things more complicated.<br /><br />I've shared quite a few of my stories with my Master and he has even critiqued some of them. So they've become his to some extent, as well as mine. And we sometimes discuss them as if they're real.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-46497841726276682282012-08-13T22:38:09.902-04:002012-08-13T22:38:09.902-04:00So true! What is writing fantasy without "wh...So true! What is writing fantasy without "what ifs?" That's what imagination is all about, isn't it? Writing is just putting a pinch of our experiences in with a lot of dreams. I think I enjoy it too much. : p<br /><br />My guess is #5!Juliannanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-6980530936325305482012-08-13T22:22:07.141-04:002012-08-13T22:22:07.141-04:00Hi Lisabet!
I feel like we're getting back in...Hi Lisabet!<br /><br />I feel like we're getting back in gear again.<br /><br />I've been thinking about this lately. I recently did crit on a piece of BDSM writing for someone who asked me. The story had problems and I wasn't especially aroused by it. Then later the author explained to me that everything I had read was confessional, that those things hd actually happened. When i re-read it - same story - I was very aroused by it. A voyeuristic quality had been added to it.<br /><br />Its true that reality seldom lives up to our fantasies, that's why we need fantasies. But I'm very curious which of your list is true. I suppose I'll never know but I'm guessing knob on the bed post.<br /><br />Garce<br />Garceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-68751410858900059562012-08-13T17:32:10.761-04:002012-08-13T17:32:10.761-04:00Well, there's truth, and then there's accu...Well, there's truth, and then there's accuracy, and they don't always fit in the same box. I draw on my past experiences when I write fiction. Someone who knew me back in the day might even recognize a scene or saying. But through fiction I get to right wrongs, settle scores, kiss the girl that got away. Maybe it ain't the way it was, but that's the way it shoulda been. And who's to say it isn't 'the truth.'Bob Buckleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-70018266019256507562012-08-13T13:27:15.901-04:002012-08-13T13:27:15.901-04:00From one liar to another...this is a great and tru...From one liar to another...this is a great and truthful post. Although I've only written one Erotic novel, I based most of the plot in Searchers on my own real experiences...or what I wish they had been. You are such a talent, Lisbeth, and an awesome friend, to boot. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09683064637626718318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-42538304546231641872012-08-13T10:55:38.468-04:002012-08-13T10:55:38.468-04:00Interesting point about the dream-like quality of ...Interesting point about the dream-like quality of memories and fiction. I think we writers live mostly in our heads and that makes for interesting fiction and perhaps memories that aren't as accurate as we may think. Though that's also human nature-- we are notoriously unreliable narrators. Terrific post!Kristina Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07206629885091637673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-24346871296785159932012-08-13T10:42:22.119-04:002012-08-13T10:42:22.119-04:00>>At this point, truth and lies intertwine s...>>At this point, truth and lies intertwine so intimately in my fiction that even I can't distinguish them.<<<br /><br />Great post! I'd have to add, "truth, lies and fantasies." With two of us (my husband and myself) co-creating the fiction we write under our pen name, multiply each of those options times two and the permutations escalate madly. What we create on the page is a marvelous mix of things that, if they haven't happened to one or the other (or both) of us, we <i>wish</i> they had. <br /><br />At that level, all our fiction is "true" about us, and fills our fantasy life. Naturally we hope it does so for readers, too.<br /><br />AdrianaAdrianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01628092657976031124noreply@blogger.com