tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post1463461823362706843..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Learning to Say NoAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-23325335752455432062011-05-31T11:13:07.979-04:002011-05-31T11:13:07.979-04:00Oh, to be a woman. To be so complex yet so simple....Oh, to be a woman. To be so complex yet so simple. I wouldn't call myself a submissive. Is there such a thing as a dominant submissive? I think if anything, I fit into that category. I challenge most anything...its just in my nature. I've always got something to say, even if I don't say it. I think of myself as blending with the shadows until I want to step away from the pack. Almost invariably, I kick myself for doing it. I don't take on extra things like that...it really has to pique my interest. Otherwise, its just like hmmm, that would be interesting and the thought is gone. <br /><br />Its really like I've only got so much room and I can't process it all. I've got a lot going on from a full time job, kid, writing, relationship. Especially right now, I feel pressure to get out the next book. My brain wants to take a break from the series and work on a stand alone title but my audience is expecting the sequel.Erin Jamisonhttp://erinjamison.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-70444890266861958302011-05-29T23:44:14.756-04:002011-05-29T23:44:14.756-04:00"What would you be like if the pressure wasn&..."What would you be like if the pressure wasn't there? What would you achieve? What would you think about yourself?"<br /><br />That's an interesting question, Mike. In fact, I'm far less driven than I was when I was younger - and I feel as though I accomplish far less. I wrote the first draft of my 500 page dissertation in about two weeks. Could I do that now? I doubt it. <br /><br />On the other hand, I'm far happier and relaxed now than I was when I was in my twenties. But then I look at my output and start castigating myself as lazy and inefficient...<br /><br />Nobody is as hard on us as we are on ourselves.<br /><br />Warmly,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-40535628202626496232011-05-29T23:41:52.542-04:002011-05-29T23:41:52.542-04:00Hi, Garce,
Oh, I get a huge kick out of "bei...Hi, Garce,<br /><br />Oh, I get a huge kick out of "being useful". Of course, one might wonder whether writing smut is exactly "useful"... ;^)<br /><br />Yes, Bodies of Light comes out as a separate title today! Thanks for your crits - it's a far better story because of your input!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-88058326913432103322011-05-29T23:38:52.628-04:002011-05-29T23:38:52.628-04:00Hi, Jean,
Actually, I considered writing about th...Hi, Jean,<br /><br />Actually, I considered writing about the pressure to produce for OGG. All your posts have been so wonderful lately, while I've been feeling like mine really lack pizazz. Then I thought about how I'd miss the Grip if I gave it up, and decided that this wasn't really a pressure situation.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-26424424651174183872011-05-29T23:37:14.820-04:002011-05-29T23:37:14.820-04:00Hi, Kathleen,
Not a submissive bone in your body?...Hi, Kathleen,<br /><br />Not a submissive bone in your body? Gee, I never would have guessed ;^)<br /><br />Seriously though, I've always been (and wanted to be) the good girl. Sometimes I still think I'm trying to get my mother's approval. Of course, if she knew the real me, she'd probably disown me!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-85349111936774446232011-05-29T22:54:04.107-04:002011-05-29T22:54:04.107-04:00Hi Lisabet,
What would you be like if the pressur...Hi Lisabet,<br /><br />What would you be like if the pressure wasn't there? What would you achieve? What would you think about yourself?<br /><br />I suspect that you are right to focus on what you do when the pressure produces the behaviours that stop you from functioning as you would like to.<br /><br />A colleague of mine would invoke "The Angel Of Release" (now there's an image for a submissive) who would let her forgive herself when she failed and live with simply having done her best.<br /><br />I wonder if some of this behaviour is simply a function of being talented. We grow up seeing that we can do more than those around us. We have no effective point of comparison other than ourselves, so we push. And we win. Most of the time.<br /><br />I also have difficulty saying no. Then I get to the point where I wake up each day feeling that I am already late, already starting to fail, and I know I have to take some time out or I will fail. Of course that is always the point when taking time out seems the most impossible.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03057127302307624255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-6680661486147449602011-05-29T22:12:47.200-04:002011-05-29T22:12:47.200-04:00I think most preassure we feel is internal, the pr...I think most preassure we feel is internal, the preassure we put on ourselves. recently I was watching a movie and a character said to another "You;re addicted to getting aproval from others." or something like that. Anyway the light bulb went on and I heard that inner voice say "You too Garce." Like I'm that way too. You;re a self confessed submissive so I wonder if that might be what makes you open to be <br />voluneteered for stuff. But what's wrong with being useful? I think that a good thing.<br /><br />Hey - Bodies of Light in on the sidebar! Beautiful cover! Very nice.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-60880212132731326782011-05-29T17:16:27.436-04:002011-05-29T17:16:27.436-04:00I can definitely relate! I think submissiveness is...I can definitely relate! I think submissiveness is one factor, but as you say, there are others too: pride, loyalty (to a person or a community), exhibitionism. <br />I'm glad you met the inner pressure to write such a well-thought-out post on pressure. :)Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-36986667484237412011-05-29T12:27:09.121-04:002011-05-29T12:27:09.121-04:00Lisabet - I don't have a submissive bone in my...Lisabet - I don't have a submissive bone in my body, but I also volunteer for everything. I think it's more a sense of responsibility to the balance of everything than submission. We take, but we also give. And you're right - the pressure to do that comes entirely from within.Kathleen Bradeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347913255760493335noreply@blogger.com