tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post3481186722452629034..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Too Fast To LiveAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-6246408643272906462015-04-09T08:35:53.455-04:002015-04-09T08:35:53.455-04:00Hello, Annabeth,
She came back so vividly during ...Hello, Annabeth,<br /><br />She came back so vividly during the writing process. Rebecca had an elegance about her that I could never hope to match. Just watching her was a joy.<br /><br />But I'm sure you know what I mean.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-9958343250589502632015-04-09T00:06:05.101-04:002015-04-09T00:06:05.101-04:00There's some recent research looking at physic...There's some recent research looking at physical signs of sexual arousal in men and women when they were shown photos of attractive naked people and also (I think) of people having sex. It turned out that men were either very aroused by women and images of men and women together (presumably the straight men) or very aroused by men, singly or together (the gay men). Women, on average, were aroused by all the photos!<br /><br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-52744470384233757952015-04-08T18:53:32.127-04:002015-04-08T18:53:32.127-04:00Lisabet, thank you for writing this. It's such...Lisabet, thank you for writing this. It's such a vivid portrait of Rebecca. My chest actually constricted when I got to the end. I'm so sad to learn what happened to her, and that's a testament to how well you paid tribute to her life. <br /><br />Numbness has often accompanied tragedy for me. I totally understand feeling bad for not being more grief-stricken, but I think that in addition to the effects of anorexia, the feeling of being emotionally muffled is relatively common in terrible circumstances. <br /><br />Hugs to you, and I'm glad you've honored her memory here.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-69298545422187254512015-04-08T18:51:09.869-04:002015-04-08T18:51:09.869-04:00Garce, I read an interesting book recently called ...Garce, I read an interesting book recently called Sexual Fluidity that included some interesting data on a study comparing men with same-sex attractions to women with same-sex attractions. For men, plotting their attractions on a graph looked like a U--while there were men in the middle, most men with same-sex attractions were either heteroflexible or gay. Women, on the other hand, occupied the middle spectrum a lot more. So there is some research to back up your observation. Though I personally balk at calling it a streak.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-35186109831100077812015-04-08T18:48:18.421-04:002015-04-08T18:48:18.421-04:00To Sacchi's point, it's been interesting t...To Sacchi's point, it's been interesting to me to consider romantic attraction and sexual attraction, both together and on their own. I've definitely had romantic attractions that weren't sexual, and vice versa. Yet societally, we tend to put them together. <br /><br />Lisabet, I think it's awesome that you had very little sense of sexual shame growing up. Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-37334352901457593892015-04-02T04:54:08.027-04:002015-04-02T04:54:08.027-04:00You're right. Life in high school was so inten...You're right. Life in high school was so intense. Every emotion magnified. Then came the anorexia, that shut down that intensity for years. It's very weird, looking back.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-53124884634688545062015-04-01T21:49:11.673-04:002015-04-01T21:49:11.673-04:00Hi Lisabet!
I think that women, in general more t...Hi Lisabet!<br /><br />I think that women, in general more than men, have a bisexual streak in them. I think you've said that you do, which is probably why you write well about it. Myself, I haven't even attempted to write gay fiction, I couldn't pull it off. <br /><br />Nevertheless our high school crushes and affairs have a very special sheen to them in our memories, don't they?<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-74615103139289451272015-04-01T01:39:50.129-04:002015-04-01T01:39:50.129-04:00My sexual response has always been very much "...My sexual response has always been very much "in my head" in any case. So the physical reactions have never been my primary focus.<br /><br />I was thinking yesterday how lucky I am, too, to have grown up with very little sense of sexual shame. Even if I had recognized my attraction to Rebecca as sexual, I don't think that would have bothered me much. I just didn't have the categories or labels at that point.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-60469527312634825832015-03-31T10:18:29.514-04:002015-03-31T10:18:29.514-04:00It seems to me that our our emotions and physical ...It seems to me that our our emotions and physical reactions are too complex and interwoven to draw sharp lines between sexual attraction and non-sexual fascination (or even obsession.) Whether or not we have (or repress) thoughts of "having sex" with someone, our pulse rates, heartbeats, feelings of euphoria or desolation, intense focus, are pretty similar in both cases. Yes, there are certain physical reactions of the male or female variety that seem to clearly indicate sexual arousal, but many physical reactions short of those can be the same whether or not we think of them as sexual.Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-40838398270587997432015-03-31T09:32:13.762-04:002015-03-31T09:32:13.762-04:00Perhaps you should have been an artist who paints ...Perhaps you should have been an artist who paints or draws. Although that kind of artist may make even less than artists who write. :>)Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-64200512224041807622015-03-31T06:44:38.241-04:002015-03-31T06:44:38.241-04:00Looking back, I'm embarrassed that I wasn'...Looking back, I'm embarrassed that I wasn't more grief-stricken. But those years of being anorexic were a bit like being wrapped up in cotton, emotionally muffled. Fear was the only emotion that had any bite.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-23069149250183206092015-03-31T06:43:19.596-04:002015-03-31T06:43:19.596-04:00Looking back, I can label many feelings as sexual ...Looking back, I can label many feelings as sexual that I didn't recognize at the time. I was "in love" with someone for most of my childhood and teen years.<br /><br />At some level, though, I knew something about sex. In grade school, boys used to pay me to draw curvy girls in bikinis. Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-71931600543956150062015-03-31T06:41:20.913-04:002015-03-31T06:41:20.913-04:00And all true.
I'd love to post the photo fro...And all true. <br /><br />I'd love to post the photo from the yearbook. But that would be too much of a risk to my anonymity, and maybe a violation of her privacy as well.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-13149848432059467792015-03-31T06:40:32.671-04:002015-03-31T06:40:32.671-04:00Hey, Ed!
I didn't know you hung out at OGG. T...Hey, Ed!<br /><br />I didn't know you hung out at OGG. Thanks!<br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-68772492084903553242015-03-31T00:47:17.703-04:002015-03-31T00:47:17.703-04:00This is so moving, Lisabet.It's not surprising...This is so moving, Lisabet.It's not surprising that her life has inspired you.The unexpected death of someone that young always suggests an unfinished novel.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-89694841880943997132015-03-30T10:52:34.648-04:002015-03-30T10:52:34.648-04:00What a tragedy. What a powerful story.
Over the y...What a tragedy. What a powerful story.<br /><br />Over the years, I've know too many lives that ended in burnout.<br /><br />But what you say about a child not understanding the sexual nature of attraction rings true. When I think of the attachments I formed as a child, I remember having a "Sharon craze" or a "Jeanie craze, when I spent the better part of several months after grammar school with one or another girl. I recognized that as sexual, even then. That she was my 'girlfriend'. But, at the time of my "Roger craze", or my "Michael craze", I wouldn't have thought of it as sexual. Now, looking back, I can see that those close relationships weren't *that* different. I guess we sort things out.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-84730855749608409982015-03-30T08:03:11.290-04:002015-03-30T08:03:11.290-04:00great story, Lisabet!great story, Lisabet!Kayelle Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02833531229634787728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-50603688880183901852015-03-30T03:50:42.243-04:002015-03-30T03:50:42.243-04:00Wow. Thank you, Lisabet.
Big edWow. Thank you, Lisabet.<br /><br />Big edAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com