tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post3819169416097224909..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: What is this "over" sexed you're talking about?Ashe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-39975730900127901202015-05-25T22:02:54.711-04:002015-05-25T22:02:54.711-04:00Hey, Annabeth! I totally agree. Intimacy is far se...Hey, Annabeth! I totally agree. Intimacy is far sexier than nudity to me, and clearly to many others. And yes...choker...le sigh. I'm not sure of the origin of that particular desire in me. I just know it's there and it's strong!Willsin Rowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255684467269187446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-49590127075634365402015-05-23T17:50:36.750-04:002015-05-23T17:50:36.750-04:00"Nowadays it's the subtle and unsuspectin..."Nowadays it's the subtle and unsuspecting sexiness of people around me which gets me all worked up."<br /><br />Hi, Willsin! I love your descriptions in this post in general, but I especially love this description. I'm reading a wonderful novel (not generally erotic) whose narrator frequently comments about the sexiness of people who are concentrating on work. I love that idea and have been thinking about it. I think some of these super-hot glimmers are about unguardedness. That's so sexy.<br /><br />And you just about killed me with the idea of the black choker...Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-63383278532366022402015-05-23T17:48:19.193-04:002015-05-23T17:48:19.193-04:00Haha, yes to all this.Haha, yes to all this.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-24437434481011386222015-05-18T07:55:06.355-04:002015-05-18T07:55:06.355-04:00I have a vague memory of a comedian who had a rout...I have a vague memory of a comedian who had a routine along these lines. Heck, it might even have been Seinfeld. About how the hiding of certain parts of women's bodies made those parts so much more fascinating. That if women walked around wearing nothing but hats, then porn movies would be filled with lustrous hair.<br /><br />Well, probably scalps, really. No unsightly naturalness to interrupt MY jerking off, thank you VERY much!Willsin Rowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255684467269187446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-87131480156363110332015-05-18T07:51:49.296-04:002015-05-18T07:51:49.296-04:00Absolutely agree. Oversexing is in the palm of the...Absolutely agree. Oversexing is in the palm of the beholder. Wait...what I meant was...<br /><br />But seriously, as Garce said and as you've elaborated, the entire concept of being "oversexed" is probably, in most cases, an artificial construct to either keep others in line or to justify why someone's not gettin' any. "She has more sex than I do? Well, that's just WRONG!"Willsin Rowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255684467269187446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-45563764958796234632015-05-18T07:49:20.655-04:002015-05-18T07:49:20.655-04:00Wow. Basically every pressure point of fascination...Wow. Basically every pressure point of fascination you mentioned is one I share, Lisabet. A hot, semi-naked body has some kind of visceral appeal, certainly (unless it's being shoved in your face against your will), but I think most of those little elements you listed are matters of choice. To be born beautiful is a gift of sorts, but it doesn't make a person. To choose those cute glasses and the crop top, or to shave one side of her head, or whatever, become outward displays of inner workings. And a type of intimacy, too - even if it's the intimacy of saying "I don't give a fuck what YOU think, folks!"Willsin Rowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255684467269187446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-69474562974377110952015-05-18T07:43:20.268-04:002015-05-18T07:43:20.268-04:00Hey, lovely! Certainly the acting on those desires...Hey, lovely! Certainly the acting on those desires would be an outward indicator of this strange elusive beast we call "oversexed". I guess what I'm considering in the blog is the weight of desire any or all of us feels, most of the time. And whether thinking about sex qualifies as being oversexed.Willsin Rowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255684467269187446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-87650517542130615622015-05-18T07:41:50.158-04:002015-05-18T07:41:50.158-04:00Yes, I had similar intents in mind with the origin...Yes, I had similar intents in mind with the original blog but just didn't find a way to bring them in. It's definitely an apt point.<br />And I always strive to keep the subtleties in mind for my more literary-aspiring erotic works. Not so much if I'm striving for smut!Willsin Rowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255684467269187446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-19819770311098977782015-05-18T07:40:02.897-04:002015-05-18T07:40:02.897-04:00Yes, the cast to an eye is a biggie for me, too. E...Yes, the cast to an eye is a biggie for me, too. Even more so should the eye in question be coquettishly obscured by funky spectacles.Willsin Rowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255684467269187446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-38834347504341717902015-05-17T13:42:15.118-04:002015-05-17T13:42:15.118-04:00"In olden days, a glimpse of stocking..."..."In olden days, a glimpse of stocking..." <br /><br />Lust will find something to be sparked by, even if it has to imagine what's hidden. The more that parts of bodies are customarily revealed, the more alluring the customarily hidden parts become. The Ferengi in the Star Trek universe considered it obscene for women to wear any clothes at all, because clothing would stimulate the imagination to speculate on what lay beneath. Okay, this was all wildly satirical (and satyrical?) but still food for thought. (One wonders whether female Ferengi were stimulated by imagining what lay beneath the clothing of males. My theory is that they had better taste than to want to know.) Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-44468599636707884532015-05-16T18:57:00.025-04:002015-05-16T18:57:00.025-04:00I've always thought oversexed was a word men u...<i>I've always thought oversexed was a word men used to keep women in line.</i><br /><br />Good point, Garce!Jeremy Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01980177431018869829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-84058337681442312642015-05-16T10:05:10.064-04:002015-05-16T10:05:10.064-04:00Interesting and entertaining, Willsin, as always.
...Interesting and entertaining, Willsin, as always.<br /><br />My take on <i>oversexed</i> is that, generally speaking, it may be a loaded word rooted in a veiled (or not so veiled) puritanism. Perhaps I could see a "legitimate" use of such a term to describe someone whose life had been taken over by things sexual to an extent that he or she felt unhappy and out of balance; or to describe a marketplace that slathers insincere sex all over everything in an undiscriminating and manipulative way (as you allude to above with advertising). But what I usually hear in the term is a gratuitous, sex-negative judgment against people who feel free to sexually self-actualize, against people with a strong, healthy, self-aware focus on the sexual side of things, or against a culture that is relatively open and honest about the centrality of sexuality in the lives of most adults. (These are just my impressions.)Jeremy Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01980177431018869829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-15122108786405191572015-05-15T22:05:54.576-04:002015-05-15T22:05:54.576-04:00I definitely know exactly what you mean, Willsin. ...I definitely know exactly what you mean, Willsin. Check out my post from last year, before you joined us, on the topic of fascination:<br /><br /><a href="http://ohgetagrip.blogspot.com/2014/09/i-cant-take-my-eyes-off-her.html" rel="nofollow">http://ohgetagrip.blogspot.com/2014/09/i-cant-take-my-eyes-off-her.html</a><br /><br />I find it interesting that although I'm bisexual, I'm far less fascinated watching guys. Every now and again I'll catch a glimpse of some guy that sparks a response, but it's fairly rare. I guess with men I'm more involved with being the object of desire.<br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-78011756146280708002015-05-15T21:45:42.617-04:002015-05-15T21:45:42.617-04:00In my head oversexed meant not only having strong ...In my head oversexed meant not only having strong and frequent desires but actually acting on them. This was eye-opening.<br />ChandraAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17925562629617827579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-80691646367548532472015-05-15T19:50:37.112-04:002015-05-15T19:50:37.112-04:00I've always thought oversexed was a word men u...I've always thought oversexed was a word men used to keep women in line. Unless its sexual addiction, which has nothing to do with pleasure.<br /><br />Actually I think you really hit on something here. It would be interesting to have a story about someone being aroused not by provacative clothing, but sutle glances and glimmers of of this and that. There's something there.<br /><br />Garce<br />Garceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-35181487876513349142015-05-15T10:58:56.898-04:002015-05-15T10:58:56.898-04:00I understand those little subtleties that shouldn&...I understand those little subtleties that shouldn't turn us on but do. I have an attraction to a chipped front tooth, or a cast to an eye. Of course short skirts, skimpy halters leave just enough covered to evoke mystery. Yum.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.com