tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post3883573273896901222..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Pride and JoyAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-70000747596824387422015-04-08T17:15:09.888-04:002015-04-08T17:15:09.888-04:00I think this is true, and unfortunate. I've be...I think this is true, and unfortunate. I've been queasy watching the way that mainstream acceptance of people who identify as LGBTQ feels tied to denying sexuality. There's a sort of buttoned-up respectability to things that makes me feel like it's not really acceptance after all..Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-10635871392746695162015-04-08T17:13:55.436-04:002015-04-08T17:13:55.436-04:00What a beautiful thought, Sacchi. I hope it's ...What a beautiful thought, Sacchi. I hope it's true! (And I hope that the enjoyment of sex part is true, too!)Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-55480469165789327202015-04-08T17:13:09.321-04:002015-04-08T17:13:09.321-04:00Ah, Lisabet. You are fantastic, and many hugs to y...Ah, Lisabet. You are fantastic, and many hugs to you!<br /><br />It took me years to figure out that I didn't have to take that therapist's view to heart. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't have good education about these things--still don't, and definitely didn't back then. Not that I think that's any excuse...<br /><br />I'm happy that you've never felt shame about your attractions. I think that's great! Maybe it's something about family or environment or your character, who knows. I've done some thinking about why I feel/have felt so much shame, and I know a lot of it has to do with who was around me, where I was, and the fact that I've always been a bit porous. I take things to heart easily. <br /><br />Thank you so much for the love and acceptance. I've used my posts at The Grip to work out a lot of this. It's almost like I've been myself here first and then tried to let it trickle out elsewhere. <br /><br />I'm looking forward to reading what you did write!Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-24069352111338073262015-04-08T17:09:51.413-04:002015-04-08T17:09:51.413-04:00I absolutely agree!I absolutely agree!Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12413433873847358742015-04-08T17:09:36.317-04:002015-04-08T17:09:36.317-04:00A really good question, Daddy. I wish people would...A really good question, Daddy. I wish people wouldn't torture each other and themselves so much over these issues.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-29537610626601982852015-03-28T19:12:04.038-04:002015-03-28T19:12:04.038-04:00Annabeth, this is a very moving post, as yours usu...Annabeth, this is a very moving post, as yours usually are. What I'm tempted to say has already been said: imposed shame over being some flavour of LGBT (Q, 2-spirit, genderfuck, etc.) seems at its base to be shame over being sexual at all, especially in any kind of public way. (Heterosexual married couples have always been expected to be fruitful and produce babies, but they have been expected to avoid discussing what leads to pregnancy. )Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-76120839978901003062015-03-27T10:43:33.107-04:002015-03-27T10:43:33.107-04:00It's no consolation, I know, but sometimes it ...It's no consolation, I know, but sometimes it seems to me that those who are weighted down by sex-related guilt imposed by religion, culture, whatever, are the most profound, multi-layered, and outright awesome writers of erotica. Of pretty much any genre, in fact. (I also have a sneaking suspicion at times that they have a more multi-layered and possibly intense enjoyment of sex, but let's not go there just now.)Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-91962516295520797742015-03-27T08:28:34.529-04:002015-03-27T08:28:34.529-04:00I'd like to strip that therapist of her licens...I'd like to strip that therapist of her license. How could she? <br /><br />I love to listen to Melissa Etheridge songs for the same reason. <br /><br />Also your post made me think about the post I'm considering writing for the next cycle, about losing friends - about how getting sexually involved with a close female friend in some sense ended that closeness.<br /><br />I hate to see the pain this causes you, though. And I rather wonder why I've never felt any kind of shame about my own attraction to women. Like Daddy, I've lived a fairly easy life from a sexual perspective.<br /><br />Anyway, you're home here. And we love and accept you regardless of which letter you decide you like.<br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-51251521330024069022015-03-26T10:47:56.317-04:002015-03-26T10:47:56.317-04:00I also want to say that it's certainly a joy t...I also want to say that it's certainly a joy to have discovered this accepting community of erotica writers both here and on ERWA. When reading my 'dirty books' as a young guy, the fantasy of that world seemed so far apart from real life. It's wonderful to meet the folks who can visualize a world so free.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-5177607653369698152015-03-26T10:40:11.166-04:002015-03-26T10:40:11.166-04:00Damn. It always pains me to hear of people having ...Damn. It always pains me to hear of people having so much trouble with sex. We profess to understand that sexual desire is not under anyone's control, but control is what's constantly expected of us. Why can't we live our lives without such judgements on what it is that makes people human?Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.com