tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post4435512010603957625..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Toughing it OutAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-70660490567836794652008-05-24T01:32:00.000-04:002008-05-24T01:32:00.000-04:00It seems that J is head strong & introvert, & also...It seems that J is head strong & introvert, & also ahas been attention seeking. I think all the measures that you have employed to deal with her are good & have just the right amount of flexibility.<BR/><BR/>However, I think P is more intelligent of the two. She appears more street smart and less of a bookish theoric. She deals with Every situation more intelligently & naturally, you don't have to ( subconsciously, whether you know it or not) worry too much about her. You know she is perfectly capable of taking care of herself, less fussy & avoiding trouble kind!Monahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615034229525061880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-57443636863936183782008-05-20T22:08:00.000-04:002008-05-20T22:08:00.000-04:00Thanks everyone. Yes Anika, it worked out well. I'...Thanks everyone. Yes Anika, it worked out well. I'm not afraid to admit when I'm wrong so I would have changed the plan if it hadn't worked out.<BR/><BR/>Rita....ow, poor honey!<BR/><BR/>Ashley, I completely understand. When you have kids you don't have babies who are mini-me's. You have little people with their own personalities and beliefs of what's right and wrong. And it's enough to drive a mom nuts or warm her heart. :)Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14947952583116323744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-23435736601352628902008-05-20T21:56:00.000-04:002008-05-20T21:56:00.000-04:00My oldest and youngest are boys. The oldest is a l...My oldest and youngest are boys. The oldest is a lot like your J. He had ADHD, was very quick, and although quiet, headstrong. I leaned on him a lot. I still do. The youngest, also a boy, is just the opposite. He's the ultimate baby.<BR/><BR/>There's one boy and two girls in the middle. The oldest girl is quite independent and forthright - at least in the house, with her siblings.<BR/><BR/>I used to be closest to the oldest, but since he married and moved out, I'm closest to the younger girl/#4 child. I love them all equally, but the 1st and 4th have wanted to be closer to me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03534849962517743534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-54601267638484922572008-05-20T20:09:00.000-04:002008-05-20T20:09:00.000-04:00You know those little paddle ball thingies? The fl...You know those little paddle ball thingies? The flimsy rubber string that attached a ball to a little wooden paddle. We used to love those damn things until the string broke after...oh, about FIVE MINUTES and the wooden paddle became a big problem for us when we got out of line. Fortunately that wasn't very often. All mom had to do was glance at the top of the fridge where she kept it and we were good as gold.<BR/><BR/>Your children are fortunate to have a nice mom who doesn't actual kill them but disciplines with LOVE. They sound terrific btw. Enjoy them now, babe. Believe me, it get WORSE. LOL<BR/><BR/>Sorry I'm late posting today. Great one, Kell!!!Regina Carlyslehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316730032624449669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-61967956008351385072008-05-20T16:54:00.000-04:002008-05-20T16:54:00.000-04:00OMG - My paternal grandmother used to use the pink...OMG - My paternal grandmother used to use the pink Avon hairbrush on us! I'd forgotten all about that until now! The prices we'd pay for jumping from the hay mow...Bronwyn Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02932056019850822590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-7224961769068967112008-05-20T16:46:00.000-04:002008-05-20T16:46:00.000-04:00I remember reading about the sports rule on your p...I remember reading about the sports rule on your personal blog. I am glad it had the desired effect.Anika Hamiltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06282993468250289546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-15497226698940595972008-05-20T14:34:00.000-04:002008-05-20T14:34:00.000-04:00Oh no! Not a pink Avon hair brush. LOL!!My dad use...Oh no! Not a pink Avon hair brush. LOL!!<BR/><BR/>My dad used a belt on us, hand if one wasn't available. I can't spank with my hand for a couple reasons. One I use those hands for hugging and I don't want to mistake the message. Two it becomes a personal hit for me and I have a harder time keeping my temper in check. We use a paddle and yes, I tested it out on myself to make sure I wasn't striking too hard. I periodically do this to remind myself of the small strength needed to make a point. Also we only ever strike the butt. Padding and all. I refuse to mark my child.<BR/><BR/>I think the guidelines are more for me so I don't hurt them, just create the sting which will prompt change. And they do. I love them dearly and they are very well behaved kids.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14947952583116323744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-44758720416092058752008-05-20T14:23:00.000-04:002008-05-20T14:23:00.000-04:00Hmmm, yep, I can't say that I disagree with spanki...Hmmm, yep, I can't say that I disagree with spankings when they're called for. I grew up in a two parent household. My dad, never spanked us, but we were scared to death of him. My mom, oh, she probably spanked us at least once a week. But mom is always the one we ran to if we needed a hug. I don't think we ever thought she was mean or cruel, she was just mom. We knew when we did something bad, and 9 times out of 10, we knew we'd be spanked for it. Knowing the boundaries and making a choice to cross them was our responsibility. I think that's why we never blamed her. I also think it helped to develop the kind of adults we've become. Taking responsibility for your actions is the best life lesson to teach your children. I'm glad Mom taught me, even if it was with that god-awful pink Avon hairbrush. LOL<BR/><BR/>-Carol LynneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-977277738213743062008-05-20T13:37:00.000-04:002008-05-20T13:37:00.000-04:00Spankings occured on rare occasions in my house to...Spankings occured on rare occasions in my house too--but again, only for MAJOR infractions to get the point across immediately on issues like "You will never climb out your window onto the roof again..." And yes, very familiar with the slow metabolism/ADD combo...ooh, look, a chicken...Cindy Spencer Papehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01583236494759465431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-84597715117743781462008-05-20T13:06:00.000-04:002008-05-20T13:06:00.000-04:00I wish I could find a point to argue with you, but...I wish I could find a point to argue with you, but it sounds like you're doing a bang up job. :DJames Goodmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08807865320537867045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-73726631698063490662008-05-20T09:46:00.000-04:002008-05-20T09:46:00.000-04:00LOL:) Your J is a lot like my K and W! K is 16 an...LOL:) Your J is a lot like my K and W! K is 16 and was ready for law school at age 8. He still tries to wheedle and rationalize every objection, but for the most part is a good kid, an honor student, and is fantastic with his younger brother, who not only looks just like him, but is just as smart. And I cracked up about J using the microwave and VCR...K knew how to work the VCR and W knows somewhat about the microwave!<BR/><BR/>Daughter S, on the other hand, is more introverted, but just as smart as her brothers. I've been blessed with 2 great teens and a 4-yr old who is showing signs of being allowed to reach his next birthday:)Molly Danielshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01488325587798390008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-50641264138536559372008-05-20T09:14:00.000-04:002008-05-20T09:14:00.000-04:00LOL.Just for the record, I showed J what I wrote (...LOL.<BR/><BR/>Just for the record, I showed J what I wrote (it's only fair as it's about her) and she said, "Tell them this is a direct quote: I LOVE those sports."<BR/><BR/>Guess it worked. ;)Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14947952583116323744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-65717303196866158502008-05-20T08:42:00.000-04:002008-05-20T08:42:00.000-04:00Not me. I wish I had had the energy and foresight ...Not me. I wish I had had the energy and foresight to do what you're doing.Anny Cookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05305873753916213970noreply@blogger.com