tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post5028925263561925291..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: I'm Really Worried!! by J.P. BowieAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-37325901252902414662014-01-08T18:52:53.950-05:002014-01-08T18:52:53.950-05:00Jp, your aunt sounds just like my mother. If there...Jp, your aunt sounds just like my mother. If there wasn't something to worry about, she'd do something to make sure there was.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-28130648888349483832014-01-08T10:47:24.033-05:002014-01-08T10:47:24.033-05:00These are great points. I've been thinking lot...These are great points. I've been thinking lots about a blog post I read a while ago called, "Real Girls, Fake Girls, Everybody Hates Girls." It lays out a pretty convincing case for how there's a lot of misogyny underlying these kinds of problems, and that there isn't a way out for an author. No matter how you write a woman, the piece argues, she'll be called unrealistic or not likable or wrong in some other way—much the way real-life women are often criticized from many angles. The post is here, if you're curious: http://thezoe-trope.blogspot.com/2013/08/real-girls-fake-girls-everbody-hates.htmlAnnabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-53212551191335026092014-01-08T10:44:27.275-05:002014-01-08T10:44:27.275-05:00I get sad because the reader in me loves Goodreads...I get sad because the reader in me loves Goodreads but the fastest way for me to get depressed about my writing ability is to go there. :( I wish there was some way to visit the site but block myself from viewing my own work. Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-28674728904870389172014-01-08T04:54:49.574-05:002014-01-08T04:54:49.574-05:00No kidding. I don't think I've signed into...No kidding. I don't think I've signed into my Goodreads account in like 2 years.Giselle Renardehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955755448116234634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-662501344737321462014-01-08T04:53:05.650-05:002014-01-08T04:53:05.650-05:00I had a story rejected last month because the edit...I had a story rejected last month because the editor hated my characters. HATED them. It really bugs me that likeability is a must-have quality for romance characters. No wonder I can't stand the genre. It's so much fun to hate characters--if it wasn't, nobody would ever watch It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia. Giselle Renardehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955755448116234634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-56444564782745446062014-01-08T04:45:29.415-05:002014-01-08T04:45:29.415-05:00I DO wear dirty clothes (one of my cats is licking...I DO wear dirty clothes (one of my cats is licking food off my shirt as I type this) but I live and work alone so I really don't care.Giselle Renardehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955755448116234634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-71084488512951431662014-01-07T21:02:32.554-05:002014-01-07T21:02:32.554-05:00For some irrational reason I worry more when revie...For some irrational reason I worry more when reviewers say they didn't like the book because they didn't like the heroine. I try to write realistic men and women, and some of the female characters are very much based on me. So I guess in some people's minds strong, loud and demanding females don't deserve love? So only the virginal, virtuous young females are "worthy"? Or am I taking things too personally...maybe they just prefer more traditionally feminine heroines, and they aren't passing judgement on me? Now I'll get back to worrying about how many females there are like me in the world, and if any of them ever read romance, because if not, my target audience just got very small!Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-73904643417563440612014-01-07T08:43:44.534-05:002014-01-07T08:43:44.534-05:00I've cured some of my worrying by just avoidin...I've cured some of my worrying by just avoiding Goodreads! LOL.JPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10305127219838784688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-66868653766082290122014-01-07T06:50:24.240-05:002014-01-07T06:50:24.240-05:00Funny, JP, but 'what will readers think?' ...Funny, JP, but 'what will readers think?' is one of the few things I <b>don't</b> worry about. I think I've come to terms with the fact that my writing just doesn't fit what the masses want. Furthermore, aside from what I'm already doing, what action could I possibly take that would make them think better of me? <br /> Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-32662358974304424742014-01-07T06:33:12.001-05:002014-01-07T06:33:12.001-05:00I am rather similar to the way you describe your a...I am rather similar to the way you describe your aunt, so it's a comfort to know that doesn't preclude me from living until 96. :) My personal worry about wearing the same clothes close together isn't that people will think I don't have more but that they'll think I haven't done laundry and I just wear dirty clothes. <br /><br />As far as "Skip it," my other favorite is, "I've read better books." Which is certainly true (after all, I'm not Tolstoy), and yet it burns. Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.com