tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post5035947807400760908..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Hurt Me, but Don't Tell Me What to DoAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-46496992485596176382016-06-07T12:26:10.815-04:002016-06-07T12:26:10.815-04:00Thanks, Lisabet! Your description of your experien...Thanks, Lisabet! Your description of your experience of BDSM is really clear here and in other things you've written. I think you're right that we're pretty opposite in this. Lots of my fantasizing is about creating circumstances in which I would take pain I'd never have the courage to face otherwise. Which is a subtle distinction from what you describe, but an important one, I think.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-355289444269997232016-06-07T12:24:38.967-04:002016-06-07T12:24:38.967-04:00:D
I absolutely love watching people who laugh i...:D <br /><br />I absolutely love watching people who laugh in response to pain. Sounds like a lot of fun.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-49348708543507600982016-06-07T12:23:57.159-04:002016-06-07T12:23:57.159-04:00Someday I want to write a story based on the carni...Someday I want to write a story based on the carnival experience... :)Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-28008757924352328252016-06-07T12:23:38.331-04:002016-06-07T12:23:38.331-04:00Glad you find my posts useful, Daddy!Glad you find my posts useful, Daddy!Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-39929286460804759712016-06-03T06:05:40.754-04:002016-06-03T06:05:40.754-04:00You make some very important distinctions here. I ...You make some very important distinctions here. I haven't had your level of experience, Annabeth, but I definitely agree that BDSM subsumes a wide range of very different desires. Furthermore, people always see others through their personal lenses. As my DH is fond of saying, there's no such thing as "reality". <br /><br />I'm just the opposite of you, I think, not particularly masochistic but definitely sexually submissive. Stingy pain can be pleasurable for me, to a certain level, but the real kick is psychological. What turns me on is the knowledge that I'm doing this to please my top. I don't experience really serious pain or discomfort as erotic, even though I might fantasize about it--because the fantasy focuses on the surrender, not the pain itself.<br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-3289502350834745552016-06-02T22:27:00.277-04:002016-06-02T22:27:00.277-04:00I used to go as a vendor to the Fetish Flea, when ...I used to go as a vendor to the Fetish Flea, when I owned a store selling some vaguely appropriate merchandise, belly-dancing gear, gypsy skirts, suggestive or humorous pins and magnets, tarot decks, that sort of thing. The employee who went along to help was into bondage, spanking, flogging, all for the sake of the endorphins, definitely not the power exchange. I'd take her to the parties run by a women's BDSM group from Boston (I was a member, mostly for the education) and folks wold gather around to see how the pain sent her into gales of laughter.<br /><br />It occurs to me that your story in Me and My Boi (coming out in a couple of weeks, finally) is a good example of a variation in the top/bottom tradition.Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-47673347008203929872016-06-02T18:37:54.206-04:002016-06-02T18:37:54.206-04:00I've read about the distinction between masoch...I've read about the distinction between masochism and submission before, but your post makes the difference clearer than an abstract explanation would. I love the description of carnival rides as an exercise in sadism/masochism.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-87811174340216722462016-06-02T11:43:47.030-04:002016-06-02T11:43:47.030-04:00We learn so much from your posts, Annabeth. Such c...We learn so much from your posts, Annabeth. Such complex situations and emotions made clear for the uninitiated. Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.com