tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post5235036570963303982..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Creature of Pure SensationAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-234412743805845272012-09-13T17:34:40.314-04:002012-09-13T17:34:40.314-04:00Hey Lisabet, there's a lot to be said for the ...Hey Lisabet, there's a lot to be said for the purely physical enjoyment of the sex act! Like Garce, when I was younger, that was what I was all about! In fact, my general rule was that some men were friends, and I didn't sleep with them for fear they'd develop feelings I didn't want to reciprocate. I had sex with strangers, with cute guys I picked up in bars or at parties. Rarely did I see any of them more than once. And I was supremely happy with that arrangement! <br /><br />Flash forward to being out of college a few years, going from FEAST to FAMINE. I met my husband at a party, and a week later he came to a party at my house...literally. We've been together for 30 years, and raised 4 kids. I told him when I met him that I'd kissed a whole lotta frogs to find my prince and I really knew what I wanted, so the one thing he could depend on was that I'd never cheat on him. There'd be NO questions unanswered for me, like "I wonder what he would be like in bed?" Or, "What would it be like to be with a stranger?" Most men are better in the anticipation...I'd get off quicker doing it myself!<br /><br />One of my books is about a female protagonist very like the younger me. "Two For Tuesday" has her telling the hero that she was trying to get the university to let her major in fucking, because that's what she spent so much of her time doing! And you practice anything that much, you're bound to get good at it!<br /><br />I think the ONE character I won't ever be able to write is a virgin. I didn't lose my virtue as much as I gave it away as soon as I found a volunteer to take it! I wanted to be in on the action, not watching from the sidelines. The idea of saving yourself strikes me as odd and bound to disappoint, just like waiting all year for Christmas, then being disappointed 5 minutes after all of the gifts are open..."Is that all there is?"Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-809529276858158572012-09-11T14:08:32.211-04:002012-09-11T14:08:32.211-04:00Hi Lisabet,
You haven't read any sensation ju...Hi Lisabet,<br /><br />You haven't read any sensation junkies in my stories because I tend not to write them. I can, but, as a rule, I don't see much juiciness in plots that involve them. There's not much challenge or drama in getting a sensation fulfilled, especially if you're willing to pay for it...Big Ed Magussonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00470692461167173003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-85024007112856260402012-09-11T06:18:37.707-04:002012-09-11T06:18:37.707-04:00Hey, Kathleen,
I'm sure you'll more than ...Hey, Kathleen,<br /><br />I'm sure you'll more than rise to the challenge.<br /><br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-36418015354915648142012-09-11T06:18:05.868-04:002012-09-11T06:18:05.868-04:00Hello, Garce,
The thing is - I think one could te...Hello, Garce,<br /><br />The thing is - I think one could tell a compelling erotic story about a creature of pure sensation. Think about the potential conflict between such a character and someone like me, who experiences sex mostly in her head. <br /><br />But I'm not sure that I, personally, could tell that story, at least not from the perspective of the more physically-oriented character.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-74040476460432000372012-09-11T06:16:18.333-04:002012-09-11T06:16:18.333-04:00Hello, Ed,
You're exactly the kind of charact...Hello, Ed,<br /><br />You're exactly the kind of character I'd struggle to write!<br /><br />I haven't read a huge amount of your stuff, but your characters strike me as more than just sensation junkies. But perhaps I've read a biased sample.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.<br /><br /><br /><br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-40540296798501845972012-09-10T23:06:27.123-04:002012-09-10T23:06:27.123-04:00It was interesting to read what your idea of "...It was interesting to read what your idea of "other" is. Real food for thought (she says as she tries to think of what she'll write)Kathleen Bradeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347913255760493335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-27924799733104599532012-09-10T21:44:05.560-04:002012-09-10T21:44:05.560-04:00Hi Lisabet!
There are so many things here I ident...Hi Lisabet!<br /><br />There are so many things here I identify with. I think when i was a much younger man the physical sensation was enough, but as the fire in the blood settles down then the emotional becomes more important. <br /><br />I think you;re describing the soul of erotic writting, or at least what makes it compelling to me, which is the grace and ineptness by which people reach out for that intimacy and human touch. That's when I think erotic writing is at its best and its characteristic of Butterfly and some of your best writing in particular.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-57573017016919301322012-09-10T09:45:06.215-04:002012-09-10T09:45:06.215-04:00I'm afraid that sex is one of the least intima...I'm afraid that sex is one of the least intimate things I do. I'm quite capable of being aroused and even getting off solely due to physical sensations. Now it's easier if I have a mental scenario going as well, or if I've slipped into a voyeur's trance watching my partner, but emotional connection is a distant third.<br /><br />The most intimate physical act for me is cuddling. The most intimate act overall is sharing deep emotional and spiritual truths.<br /><br />I can write emotionally connecting sex stories, but the rest are just as easy.Big Ed Magussonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00470692461167173003noreply@blogger.com