tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post5396542198573209091..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Forgiving OurselvesAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-9234645801042527702016-03-24T11:22:07.940-04:002016-03-24T11:22:07.940-04:00This is a really insightful post, Cameron, and tha...This is a really insightful post, Cameron, and thanks for writing it. <br /><br />I do disagree with what Daddy X proposes about the reason behind it, though. I read it as saying that we know where we were being selfish, or what have you. But even when I know my thought process was innocent, that doesn't seem to help. Even when I know that I totally didn't mean harm, I feel terrible if I've caused it, and tend to be really hard on myself about why I didn't anticipate it. <br /><br />As Cameron said, I also remember specific things I said or did in high school that I regret. It's really easy to fall into running that sort of thing on loop if I'm not careful.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-6133752287824854932016-03-17T11:25:46.320-04:002016-03-17T11:25:46.320-04:00Yes, Sacchi. Those kind are also drama addicts; if...Yes, Sacchi. Those kind are also drama addicts; if they don't let go, the drama can continue.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-73208133722940543442016-03-17T10:42:47.990-04:002016-03-17T10:42:47.990-04:00I guess our own feelings of guilt can be harder to...I guess our own feelings of guilt can be harder to forget than our feelings of having been wronged, which is just as well. The few people I've known who never let go of a perceived wrong and never acknowledged faults of their own were much less happy than those who could forgive and forget, and in fact seemed to have mental/personality disorders that alienated them from family and friends. Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-13604107881198425032016-03-16T23:54:46.927-04:002016-03-16T23:54:46.927-04:00Memory is the key, as you note. Other people DO fo...Memory is the key, as you note. Other people DO forget our slips, because they're more focused on their own lives and processes. Each of us is more or less ephemeral in the eyes of the people around us. Meanwhile, since we're naturally focused on our own inner lives, we remember our mistakes, and continue to beat ourselves up about them.<br /><br />BTW I want to see pics of you dressed up as a big blue dog!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-7940510240352072642016-03-15T11:16:24.697-04:002016-03-15T11:16:24.697-04:00I think it may be easier to forgive others than ou...I think it may be easier to forgive others than ourselves because we can't get into another person's head. We can give them the benefit of the doubt for any number of extenuating circumstances we may not be aware of. When we fuck up, we own whatever thought processes that created the situation.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.com