tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post5498518684420303063..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: How To Make Me CryAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-29023966822871830592015-03-26T02:14:14.328-04:002015-03-26T02:14:14.328-04:00Everyone here is so wise! I love the way Daddy, Je...Everyone here is so wise! I love the way Daddy, Jean, Sacchi, and Lisabet have answered you. So often when I read your posts, I just want to give you a long distance hug. So please consider yourself hugged if you're willing to be. I've struggled a lot with these fine points of morality and that elusive line between self-respect and pride, and the need to combine an awareness of imperfection with a spirit of forgiveness toward my self and others. They're not easy things to distinguish, but to me your spirit just seems so beautiful. Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-23399938608232725542015-03-19T23:46:29.295-04:002015-03-19T23:46:29.295-04:00Hi, Giselle,
Love your new cover!
I don't th...Hi, Giselle,<br /><br />Love your new cover!<br /><br />I don't think that pride meaning "respect for yourself and your accomplishments" is the opposite of the humility and compassion advocated by the yoga prayer. The opposite of that humility is arrogance (which can also be labeled as "pride"), meaning the belief that you are *fundamentally* better or more worthy than others. <br /><br />The individuals who show the deepest compassion (e.g. the Dalai Lama, Mother Theresa) are those who are sure of their own value in the universe. They love themselves. They're grateful for their abilities and accomplishments and try to use them for the benefit of others. They don't deny that they are special, but treat others as equally special, each soul a spark of the Eternal. <br /><br />Remember the Golden Rule tells us to love others as we love ourselves. <br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-61976998686247827102015-03-19T20:29:03.726-04:002015-03-19T20:29:03.726-04:00A very smart man once told me: "Don't jud...A very smart man once told me: "Don't judge people by *your* standards. If you must judge others, judge them by *their* own standards and whether or not they remain true to them. Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-13146869102424621972015-03-19T20:25:22.299-04:002015-03-19T20:25:22.299-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-37189862574739461662015-03-19T19:11:54.459-04:002015-03-19T19:11:54.459-04:00Sacchi, I think you've approached an insight. ...Sacchi, I think you've approached an insight. :) Giselle, I'm not sure that feeling as low as straw in the street would be helpful anywhere in North America. Feeling unselfconscious (like straw) might feel freeing. I'm thinking the Hindu prayer might have made more sense in its original language and its original culture. Maybe the goal is to shed the ego, a socially-determined sense of self. Having no "pride" in that sense might involve shedding the sense of unworthiness that unworthy people have tried to impose on you. <br />Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-66658649284177831472015-03-19T17:26:56.958-04:002015-03-19T17:26:56.958-04:00I guess self respect could be thought of as pride,...I guess self respect could be thought of as pride, but you don't hear people telling you to have no self respect (or if they do, they're clearly losers themselves.) Maybe pride has more to do with comparing oneself to other people, while self respect is internal. I understand the metaphorical intent of trying to feel lower than the straw in the street, but the role the straw serves is not the one you serve, and no two people can be measured against each other in every way. I was going to say that we should measure ourselves by how we live up to our own goals, but we tend to be our own harshest critics, so I'll just wander away muttering with no actual insights to share.Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-54246647502296742015-03-19T12:08:17.823-04:002015-03-19T12:08:17.823-04:00Good answer!Good answer!Giselle Renardehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955755448116234634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-29302621777854591972015-03-19T10:50:50.595-04:002015-03-19T10:50:50.595-04:00You ask-
How do I get from here to there? How do I...You ask-<br />How do I get from here to there? How do I get to a place where I can just abandon every drop of my pride?<br /><br />I don't think dropping all aspects of pride is such a good idea. Be proud of your personal accomplishments. That's important to our sense of satisfaction with the way we run our lives. The rest (race, country, religion, society in which you were born) is hubris. Unless you have something to be proud of bringing about, you're hanging on someone else's ideas and consequently riding on the coattails of their status.<br />Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.com