tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post6449223294555304507..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: CravingsAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-89630980887929722412014-11-20T21:24:42.170-05:002014-11-20T21:24:42.170-05:00Hope you find some energy, but not to worry, most ...Hope you find some energy, but not to worry, most of these events are a half century old. a few more days won't matter.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484640447109164744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-49075224671810435702014-11-20T01:08:52.162-05:002014-11-20T01:08:52.162-05:00Really interesting stuff about your time playing b...Really interesting stuff about your time playing basketball. I don't have the energy right now to wrap my brain around all the gender stuff we have going on in this post and in the comments. These are deep, disturbing issues.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-11273499267864727012014-11-17T19:16:42.122-05:002014-11-17T19:16:42.122-05:00Yeah cool but I won a pissing contest with Buckley...Yeah cool but I won a pissing contest with Buckley.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484640447109164744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-40746895819071995612014-11-17T07:20:25.034-05:002014-11-17T07:20:25.034-05:00Jean:
You are correct, I was speaking only for mys...Jean:<br />You are correct, I was speaking only for myself and my twisted motives. There's no question that society has laid a strange burden on girls/women, much more so in my youth than now. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484640447109164744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-40244951113328125882014-11-17T00:12:41.905-05:002014-11-17T00:12:41.905-05:00Spencer, your post looks honest and moving. Howeve...Spencer, your post looks honest and moving. However, I also noticed the gender-specific nature of a desire to become outstanding at something as a way to attract a date. When I was in my last year of high school, I won a major award in a national student writing contest. My boyfriend had entered too, but he didn't even get honorable mention. (For the past year, he had relied on me to edit his essay assignments for English class.) He accused me of being on an "ego trip," and dumped me. He promptly found a younger girl who was apparently less ambitious than I was, and who admired him more.<br />I suspect we have all secretly craved fame in some form, but the consequences of getting it vary according to who or what we are expected to be.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-26362128803612320192014-11-16T21:34:11.793-05:002014-11-16T21:34:11.793-05:00Hmmm... And Mailer was one of mine.Hmmm... And Mailer was one of mine.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-69899706467704164342014-11-16T19:56:01.210-05:002014-11-16T19:56:01.210-05:00Buckley was one of my intellectual hero's. I m...Buckley was one of my intellectual hero's. I met him once in what turned into a comical situation. If you think he looked bad on TV you should have seen him in person. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484640447109164744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-62509365622931265112014-11-15T23:20:41.161-05:002014-11-15T23:20:41.161-05:00Women's achievements (in my experience) are mo...Women's achievements (in my experience) are more likely to drive men away. At least men of my generation. I had a boyfriend break up with my in high school because he told me I intimidated him. (He was the top male in the class grades-wise. I was the top female.)<br /><br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-57648456979849156972014-11-15T23:09:10.741-05:002014-11-15T23:09:10.741-05:00Spencer, by "theoretical" I meant that t...Spencer, by "theoretical" I meant that the "lack" part was spurious. Yes, there's been achievement throughout history, generally against heavy odd. These days I doubt that women try to impress men with their achievement, since they still have the odd (or is it?) impression that men will like them less if they do things as well as men do. Those who go for it anyway are more likely figuratively thumbing their noses at men than trying to make a favorable impression. Or, even more likely, they just go ahead with what they know they can do without paying attention to what men think.<br /><br />I know the guys here don't really think badly of women who succeed as well as men, but have you seen the recent flood of virulent misogyny loosed against women who dare to speak out against discrimination in the video game community? And the way "feminist" has become a dirty word, and not in a good way? Times a re still tough, and in some ways getting tougher.<br /><br />But I was clearly derailing the discussion of cravings, and I apologize. Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-67166459507361017652014-11-15T20:04:51.771-05:002014-11-15T20:04:51.771-05:00Sacchi:
You must be kidding if you think women'...Sacchi:<br />You must be kidding if you think women's lack of achievement is theoretical. In my adult lifetime (and yours) women's achievements are phenomenal. When I showed up at college in 1968 at the first meeting of the pre-medical students association one brave "girl" (we were all 18 then) asked the Dean of the Medical School about the chances of a woman being admitted to medical school. Without a moment's hesitation he said, "Very unlikely." Shit. I think nearly half of the incoming class at the medical school of my alma mater is women now. There is no way to say that women haven't overcome and achieved great things. I don't know if they did it to impress the boys, though. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484640447109164744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-30488106937181566892014-11-15T19:34:58.064-05:002014-11-15T19:34:58.064-05:00Hmm. Should we conclude that women's theoretic...Hmm. Should we conclude that women's theoretical lack of achievements is due to not trying to impress girls? Or to spending so much time trying to impress men? Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-40838564359708287342014-11-15T13:40:55.326-05:002014-11-15T13:40:55.326-05:00Speaking of classic opponents, I always liked the ...Speaking of classic opponents, I always liked the Norman Mailer/Wm. F. Buckley stand-offs. Often it looked like a burping contest. What a show.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-78390478145474147592014-11-15T12:40:23.657-05:002014-11-15T12:40:23.657-05:00*sighs* sure true for me. *sighs* sure true for me. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484640447109164744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-89128543462936854082014-11-15T11:17:14.374-05:002014-11-15T11:17:14.374-05:00I think at some point its natural we all begin to ...I think at some point its natural we all begin to question the things that have driven us in our lives. Also because the phase of our life is beginning to change. I've always suspected that man's great achievements in art, war and civilization are simply our attempts to impress girls. We are only what we are.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-78057244802712369502014-11-15T07:52:35.582-05:002014-11-15T07:52:35.582-05:00Thanks Lisabet:
Blog tours. I'm dancing as fa...Thanks Lisabet:<br /><br />Blog tours. I'm dancing as fast as I can. I've always thought that the Norman Mailer, Gove Vidal tiffs were started by the marketing departments of their publishers. Maybe I need to pick a fight with someone.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484640447109164744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-48982456587369443882014-11-15T05:43:18.253-05:002014-11-15T05:43:18.253-05:00Hey, Spencer,
Thanks for your honest, heartfelt p...Hey, Spencer,<br /><br />Thanks for your honest, heartfelt post. It's a bit sad that you spent so much of your life thinking fame and fortune would make you likeable, but at least you've come around to the truth - you *are* likeable, just the way you are.<br /><br />And I'm delighted that you shifted the topic in the direction of another sort of craving. Very deft.<br /><br />Meanwhile, I hope your blog tour bears fruit. It's tough getting noticed. Believe me, I know!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-9420849929785913792014-11-14T19:58:26.072-05:002014-11-14T19:58:26.072-05:00Are you kidding? I love puns-a sign of higher inte...Are you kidding? I love puns-a sign of higher intelligence. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484640447109164744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-25687680236448115382014-11-14T18:58:58.724-05:002014-11-14T18:58:58.724-05:00Heh, sorry about the pun. Couldn't resist. Dan...Heh, sorry about the pun. Couldn't resist. Dancing is indeed foreplay, as long as it's done right. Yeow!Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-81763750091124317262014-11-14T16:57:25.185-05:002014-11-14T16:57:25.185-05:00Daddy:
Bites on my barbecue-please tell me you mea...Daddy:<br />Bites on my barbecue-please tell me you meant to be punny. No bites, not even a nibble. At this point it doesn't matter much. I enjoyed many fine grilled meals over the years. It was good for my OCD to have something to think about that was physical. I realized that I'm good at fixing things but not people. When the last prototype died, I decided I'd had enough.<br /><br />Discovering my true talent late in life has really helped me with raising my boys. I encourage them pursue their interests with abandon.<br /><br />I got into dancing in the 80's, learning ball room dance, especially swing. Dancing is foreplay.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484640447109164744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-44653674852909777372014-11-14T16:28:20.760-05:002014-11-14T16:28:20.760-05:00A heartfelt post, Spencer. It's good to be hon...A heartfelt post, Spencer. It's good to be honest with oneself. I was never very good at sports, but I could dance. That was my way into an 'in' clique in high school. It enabled me to get close to girls, for god's sakes! Not all of it was the fast dances; there was always the 'grind'. Come to think I lost some girls that way too, but I did get slapped in the face to even things up. :>( And there were those other times when the girl ground right back. :>) Yum. <br /><br />The trick is:<br /> Determine what you're good at, or what you enjoy doing so much you'd do it without pay. Then figure a way to make money at it. Since I can't really afford to pursue a hobby in the depth I'd want to pursue it, I've always tried to turn my hobbies into enterprises, much as you are doing with your inventions. Any bites on your barbecue, BTW?Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.com