tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post6770930818663769256..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: The Betas' LamentAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-24269238600659027102017-08-24T23:14:03.280-04:002017-08-24T23:14:03.280-04:00When I was in my sex-goddess phase, I was amazed b...When I was in my sex-goddess phase, I was amazed by how grateful guys sometimes were that I was willing to--indeed, wanted to--have sex with them. I got the impression that a lot of men are constantly frustrated. This of course is partially due to the societal attitudes you cite, Fiona, about the appropriate place and behavior for females. It's not just the conditioning of males that causes problems. If females were more comfortable with and accepting of their own sexuality, everyone would be happier and more satisfied.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-49386416487027613422017-08-23T23:09:19.262-04:002017-08-23T23:09:19.262-04:00I was going to say the first guy also, since like ...I was going to say the first guy also, since like Garce says, at least he's trying to understand. And he's right, because women who want sex, won't call rape unless it really is.<br /><br />What women want is so blindingly simple it's hilarious that more men haven't figured it out: respect. Respect me as your equal, and we can have lots of great sex together. If things don't work out for us, no harm done, right? Don't act like I'm the only woman in the world who ever said yes to you, and there will never be another. That's what leads men to be resentful and beat or kill the woman who wants to leave them. Realize there are plenty more of us out there, and if I don't want you anymore, then go look for the next one who will. And why should you care whom I'm fucking next? I don't care whom you're poking. Once we're done, we're done. It's not a reflection on your manhood...it just means upon closer examination, we (or maybe just I) realized we were incompatible in the long run. No big deal.<br /><br />This whole bullshit idea that men are created to sample all the flowers, like a bee, and the women need to just sit still and be flowers and take it, is a farce. Male anthropologists have fed into that crap "logic" for way too long, trying to prove there's a biological and evolutionary reason for men feeling and acting like horndogs. Some men get resentful when every woman they meet won't "put out" for them...conversely, they are the same ones to call women who do put out for anyone, nasty names. I guess she's a hot babe if it's only your dick she's sucking, but she's a slut and a whore if she sucks anyone else's. <br /><br />And society was "better" when white men were default, and everyone else, men of color and women of any color, knew our place...under your boot. Tough. Put on your big boy briefs and act like one. You'll get laid more.Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-83726069908552710192017-08-22T07:06:11.807-04:002017-08-22T07:06:11.807-04:00The First Guys last comment shows at least he'...The First Guys last comment shows at least he's trying. The others show their bafflement of women, which accounts for a lot of the hostility that men have towards women. They don;t know what women wan except they don;t want them and they can;t find a way to cross that line.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-60273141426648040562017-08-20T23:06:37.336-04:002017-08-20T23:06:37.336-04:00Thanks for commenting, all. I tried to reply earli...Thanks for commenting, all. I tried to reply earlier today, but my first reply disappeared into cyberspace. Apparently my cellphone has a mind of its own, and I'm definitely not an alpha woman in tech. <br /><br />I was thinking that First Guy has the best sex because he has some awareness of the needs of his partner. Anonymous, I didn't think he was married, but you never know.<br /><br />Re Alpha vs. beta males, there seems to be a paradox: young men still grow up learning that to be Real Man, you have to be an Alpha, but by definition, leaders are in the minority. IMO, this explains a lot of general resentment among men.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-6074017109186603382017-08-19T23:02:35.992-04:002017-08-19T23:02:35.992-04:00The answer is none of the above. First and Second ...The answer is none of the above. First and Second Guy are pussies. Third and Fourth Guy don't have jobs. Fifth Guy spends all his time posting angry comments on Breitbart. He's one drive-thru order mistake away from a shooting spree.<br /><br />Mrs. First Guy has the best sex, with her alpha male backdoor man. He's making her see stars on the regular, and First Guy is none the wiser.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-26551594845405210012017-08-19T13:28:18.769-04:002017-08-19T13:28:18.769-04:00I think the first guy gets the most satisfying sex...I think the first guy gets the most satisfying sex, albeit what we (or they) determine 'best' is by nature a comparison. At least he takes his thoughts to a second or third level, while the other doofs don't feel they need to do that. They're comparatively one-dimensional. And one-dimensional sex, although it can be okay (yum) in and of itself, doesn't come near to best.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-45040512145636841322017-08-19T07:43:46.590-04:002017-08-19T07:43:46.590-04:00I don't think being an alpha is related to eff...I don't think being an alpha is related to effort. It's a point of view, a set of values, a set of behaviors--mostly unconscious. I do wonder whether there are betas who *try* to be alphas, and think that they're failing.<br /><br />Actually, I think most of the angry white guys are stuck being betas, and resent this. You've channeled their frustration with scary clarity, Jean.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-30014534985068155492017-08-18T22:16:42.685-04:002017-08-18T22:16:42.685-04:00First Guy seems most likely to have the best sex l...First Guy seems most likely to have the best sex life, since he at least has an understanding of consent and doesn't think women who actually want sex with him would later call it rape. And he accepts being a beta make without whining about imagined injustices. <br /><br />Alighieri is frustrated in his attempts to be an alpha, but he does, at least, get good sex. Not the best sex, though, if we think the best sex comes with an emotional attachment. His problem is choosing a girl whose self-identity is based on rebellion while apparently wanting someone who can physically overpower that rebellion. Of course I'm extrapolating from limited information, and quite likely extrapolating erroneously. Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.com