tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post7786506164708132814..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: It's Not About SexAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-30474811686994605792011-11-02T00:16:20.025-04:002011-11-02T00:16:20.025-04:00Fabulous post. People ask me what the difference i...Fabulous post. People ask me what the difference is all the time. It's hard to explain when so many people view it in a different fashionHaleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08052968394434407915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-39843164493348331792011-11-01T23:53:53.337-04:002011-11-01T23:53:53.337-04:00Amazing and powerful post, Lisabet. And you know I...Amazing and powerful post, Lisabet. And you know I'm going to agree with you 100%.<br /><br />Many of my stories - some of the ones I consider to be the most genuinely seated in the 'erotic fiction' genre, don't actually contain any sex acts. Sometimes, as in a story like 'better left unsaid', I consciously chose to close the story just before the sex began. Because the story was about yearning and what we allow ourselves to yearn about. I wanted to let the reader go on to imagine whatever sexual acts they wanted. I realized that if I wrote out the sex itself, I'd rob the reader of the opportunity to picture exactly the sex that would constitute fulfillment of that desire for them.Remittance Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07902713020074243375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-19588660305451727922011-11-01T01:14:38.162-04:002011-11-01T01:14:38.162-04:00Thank you, Kristina and Shar!
I agree!Thank you, Kristina and Shar!<br /><br />I agree!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-29177620189338249572011-10-31T14:45:33.955-04:002011-10-31T14:45:33.955-04:00Oh, I loved "Stroke"! I'd agree with...Oh, I loved "Stroke"! I'd agree with a definition of erotica being about desire--for me, sexual/emotional desire, since the two don't really separate.Sharazadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15770022203256855126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-80458881482615536282011-10-31T14:35:36.153-04:002011-10-31T14:35:36.153-04:00I truly admire authors who can strip away the sex ...I truly admire authors who can strip away the sex and still have a story that drips with eroticism. I'm still working on that skill. Lovely excerpt!Kristina Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07206629885091637673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-66484973162768342422011-10-30T23:30:06.937-04:002011-10-30T23:30:06.937-04:00Hi, Charlotte,
Yes - well, anyone who has anythin...Hi, Charlotte,<br /><br />Yes - well, anyone who has anything to do with erotica is bound to get some strange looks!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-79585697556750875622011-10-30T23:29:28.189-04:002011-10-30T23:29:28.189-04:00Hi, Ed,
Oh, I love controversy!
I went to read ...Hi, Ed,<br /><br />Oh, I love controversy! <br /><br />I went to read your post and left a comment. I think you've made some excellent points. I'm not trying to be exclusionary! <br /><br />Maybe I should have prefaced my claim with the notion that "for me" erotica is mostly about desire. On the other hand, I often appreciate stories that focus on the other aspects of experience that you mention, especially wonder.<br /><br />In any case, your post does support my general contention that erotica more about emotions than physical sensations. Perhaps limiting the emotion to "desire" is too narrow.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-23978279537181009472011-10-30T23:16:33.036-04:002011-10-30T23:16:33.036-04:00Greetings, Naomi,
I definitely agree with Dr. Rut...Greetings, Naomi,<br /><br />I definitely agree with Dr. Ruth...<br /><br />But I know that this is just my view. There ARE people for whom the physical takes complete primacy.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12455521692483671822011-10-30T23:15:47.055-04:002011-10-30T23:15:47.055-04:00Hello, Candace,
I really wish I could find that s...Hello, Candace,<br /><br />I really wish I could find that story. It was so intense - really beautiful...<br /><br />Thanks for visiting!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12190582087264992192011-10-30T23:15:00.115-04:002011-10-30T23:15:00.115-04:00Greetings, Craig,
Thanks! This is of course only ...Greetings, Craig,<br /><br />Thanks! This is of course only my opinion ;^)Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-55066990659320777832011-10-30T22:04:08.671-04:002011-10-30T22:04:08.671-04:00Yes, exactly!
I get strange looks when I try and ...Yes, exactly!<br /><br />I get strange looks when I try and explain that it's not actually the sex in erotica that I find most exciting; it's the characters' intense emotions.Charlotte Gattohttp://www.forcefantasy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-7514825986243841382011-10-30T12:55:52.782-04:002011-10-30T12:55:52.782-04:00I dislike the statement that erotica is about desi...I dislike the statement that erotica is about desire. I think it leaves too much out, as I blogged about myself (http://www.besplace.com/2011/10/05/so-is-erotica-about-desire/).<br /><br />I think there's a realm of sexually explicit fiction that can focus on wonder, curiosity, thrill, and bawdiness. Are these stories excluded from erotica because desire is minor or irrelevant? If so, where do they reside?Big Ed Magussonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00470692461167173003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-58612552777381493932011-10-30T12:12:18.623-04:002011-10-30T12:12:18.623-04:00The mind is the most powerful sexual organ. Didn&#...The mind is the most powerful sexual organ. Didn't Dr. Ruth say that? Excellent post!Naomi Bellinahttp://www.naomibellina.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-27830090112864080212011-10-30T09:29:49.394-04:002011-10-30T09:29:49.394-04:00Wow! Great post. I love the visual of the soldie...Wow! Great post. I love the visual of the soldier story, and the incapacitated DOM with clear feelings from the girl set the mood beautifully.Candace Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02748693767141557202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-10766497667964593612011-10-30T04:52:54.543-04:002011-10-30T04:52:54.543-04:00Hear, hear.
And the excerpt is a perfect illustra...Hear, hear.<br /><br />And the excerpt is a perfect illustration of your point.<br /><br />Great topic, and a great post.Craig Sorensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08101869420537661374noreply@blogger.com