tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post8395047610208835906..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: The Smog Between UsAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-16741262021603681162012-07-07T14:53:32.905-04:002012-07-07T14:53:32.905-04:00You see, Lisabet? Discussing pet peeves (or wild p...You see, Lisabet? Discussing pet peeves (or wild peeves)is not simply self-sabotage. It can remind us of what we want to work on.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-13265168894749072092012-07-07T03:25:09.207-04:002012-07-07T03:25:09.207-04:00Miscommunication is a dangerous pet peeve, Jean, b...Miscommunication is a dangerous pet peeve, Jean, because honestly, I don't think we can escape it. Not only do we mishear things (or fail to listen) - our preconceptions and beliefs are so ingrained that we're not even aware how they influence our understanding.<br /><br />Still, I imagine that consciously aspiring to communicate clearly has to help.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-79230256439098827202012-07-06T01:03:00.164-04:002012-07-06T01:03:00.164-04:00Garce, I'm sure that all sorts of public penal...Garce, I'm sure that all sorts of public penalties for crime (the pillory, branding, flogging, drawing-&-quartering, etc.) have had effects on the general population. Just imagine. According to a recent poll, a surprising number of Canadians who are liberal on other issues want to bring back the death penalty for certain crimes (serial murder, sex-killings of children). (Hanging was the usual method before all capital punishment was outlawed in Canada in 1976.) I can't see any evidence that chaos has reigned since hanging was taken off the table, so to speak.<br />Oh yes, I remember Mike Kimera's signature line -- very true. He had some good things to say above it too.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-46123757449207711362012-07-06T00:49:31.009-04:002012-07-06T00:49:31.009-04:00Kathleen, OMG. Cross-cultural misunderstandings ar...Kathleen, OMG. Cross-cultural misunderstandings are the worst. And to think that the accessibility of public places (hotels, restaurants, public transportation) has been lobbied for by disabled (or differently-abled) people & their allies for years.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-82021038657259937042012-07-06T00:44:20.564-04:002012-07-06T00:44:20.564-04:00Jeremy, you are so right. I can never be sure how ...Jeremy, you are so right. I can never be sure how many misunderstandings are due to actual hearing problems and how many are due to listening problems. When I was in elementary school and complained to my parents that no one listened to me, my mom told me I would just have to learn to outshout other people, as if that would work.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-80754300385125196672012-07-05T19:09:38.139-04:002012-07-05T19:09:38.139-04:00Actually public hanging might be a way to lower th...Actually public hanging might be a way to lower the crime rate. It worked for China.<br /><br />When Mike Kimera was around his emails always had this signature "What you read is not what I wrote" and I discovered there is a lot of truth in that. People really don;t read well, and reading can be as much of an art as writing. <br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-46022212646062607132012-07-05T09:24:28.306-04:002012-07-05T09:24:28.306-04:00Jean - several years ago, I worked with an Armenia...Jean - several years ago, I worked with an Armenian woman who came into work very upset. At our daily meeting, she poured out her woes to us. Her husband, an electrical engineer with the Jet Propulsion Labs, had traveled to Texas to oversee a project. The hotel had put him into a handicapped accessible room. He was highly insulted and interpreted that to mean that the Texans thought that because he was a foreigner, he was mentally and physically defective and they put him in that room as a huge insult. No matter what we said to her, we could not convince her that her husband had not been insulted, and that most hotel rooms across the US would be handicap accessible - by law! <br /><br />So even when everyone reads the same words with correct punctuation, they're still going to read something very different into the meaning.Kathleen Bradeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347913255760493335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-20974197379298122922012-07-05T08:55:25.311-04:002012-07-05T08:55:25.311-04:00I'm with you on the subject of misunderstandin...I'm with you on the subject of misunderstandings, Jean! I sometimes even jump in when other people in a family gathering or whatever are talking at cross purposes, and I seem to be the only one who realizes they're talking about two different things. Mishearings are, of course, a huge factor, and I mourn the loss of high-fidelity phone infrastructure in the shift to portable technology. I'm not shy about telling an interlocutor I couldn't make out what (s)he just said, and despite having pretty acute hearing I have to do it a lot; so I can only imagine what kinds of misunderstandings occur among people who are mishearing half of whatever their friends and family members say to them over the phone and don't want to ask for repeats. (Then again, I've observed that most people aren't very interested in paying attention to what other people are saying to them in the first place, being more focused on their end of the conversation.)Jeremy Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01980177431018869829noreply@blogger.com