tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post8803894709468056841..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: "Craft": A Paranormal StoryAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-74614574426304611862014-12-04T02:20:21.199-05:002014-12-04T02:20:21.199-05:00A late comment to say I would totally buy Sorceres...A late comment to say I would totally buy Sorceress Barbie. And all smurfs except for Smurfette are, as far as I know, male. <br /><br />I definitely felt tense for most of this story. All of this story? While I was glad she sent him away, I wasn't entirely assuaged by the ending. To me, it didn't read happy as much as still uncanny. The moral question isn't gone for me at that point. <br /><br />You wrote: <br /><br />"What stops us? Decency? Fear. Of what?"<br /><br />The story deals with both questions, but perhaps they go away a bit quickly. I am just becoming old enough to find myself sometimes attracted to people who are far too young for me. I think it's both decency and fear that stops me (although decency seems too weak of a word). I was preyed upon by older people when I was young, and I would never want to perpetrate that on someone else. I'm not saying that older lovers are predatory in all cases, but it remains uncomfortable territory for me, at least when the quite young are involved (to me, it's very different for a 30-year-old to choose a 50-year-old lover than for a 20-year-old to be with a 40-year-old). <br /><br />At the same time, there is a sort of fear, though not so much of rejection or ridiculousness (I can imagine those being fears, they're just not the ones I feel). What I find myself afraid of is the messiness of extreme youth. I don't want to deal with the emotions, the immaturity, the uncertainty, the lack of resources and experience. That stuff was unpleasant enough the first time around. No need to revisit it. And I love being in my 30s and being with people who are comfortable enough with themselves to talk about what they need, and being one of those people myself. <br /><br />I totally get fantasies of initiation, but whenever I seriously contemplate one, it begins to seem so impractical. Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-38560928621328370592014-12-01T20:59:39.258-05:002014-12-01T20:59:39.258-05:00Fiona-
Not many folks can say they're happy to... Fiona-<br />Not many folks can say they're happy to be who they are. Something about maturity.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-54290248891762380142014-12-01T18:14:16.300-05:002014-12-01T18:14:16.300-05:00When I was still in high school, my first was some...When I was still in high school, my first was someone else's boyfriend, who was running away from home, so I figured he'd be out of the picture afterwards, so I wouldn't have to deal with him. He did come back, and we "hooked up" a few times after that, but it was mediocre sex at best. I had my real fun when I got to college...to the point that my Dad disowned me at least twice. He once told me he wished I was the son, and my shy brother was the daughter, because then he could be proud of both of us. Uh...thanks?<br /><br />I think my Mom gave me similar advice to Lisabet's, but since Mom was a virgin when she got married, I figured she didn't know what she was talking about. But she did love her erotic romance novels. Surprise, surprise, that's what I write.<br /><br />I did kiss a whole lotta frogs and sowed a lot of wild oats. I've written some of my anecdotes, only slightly changed, into some of my books. (Read "Two For Tuesday!") I think back on those days and I smile, thinking that I'm not the same person...but of course, I am. She's a part of me. I'm happy with the me I've grown into, and part of that is due to my husband, who allowed me to still be me: loud, obnoxious, beer-drinking party-girl with lots of tattoos, yet be the mother of his children. The kids joke about me driving them, strapped into their car-seats, around our very religious town, blasting Nine Inch Nails songs, trying to remember to mute the sound each time Trent Reznor says "fuck", which is quite often in many songs. That's why my son bought us tickets, and we went to see NIN this past summer. <br /><br />I'm not a textbook mom...no high heels and pearls here. (Only for "play"...I can't walk in those things!) I'm not a textbook wife either. No matter where we go, I do all of the driving because I love to drive and I'm a crabby-ass passenger. Husband says his balls have gotten used to it. I usually beat his ass at pool in the biker bar we go to often, with our 2-piece pool cues--I have my Dad's, and husband has the one I bought for him. (We had a pool table in our basement in the house I grew up in.) Husband says he's gotten used to the pitying looks from other men. But he is getting better.<br /><br />We are all amalgams of male and female. I think I have more male than most women, and husband is definitely a beta male. He does all of the decorating in our house, since I honestly don't give a shit, even about what color he paints the rooms. I also do as little housekeeping as possible. But I do cook and bake. I tell husband he knew I wasn't a good housekeeper when he married me...but what he married me for, I'm still good at. So it's all good! ;-DFiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-69217666000012792442014-11-30T20:49:42.039-05:002014-11-30T20:49:42.039-05:00A jeannie outfit??? Oh my god, your husband, I en...A jeannie outfit??? Oh my god, your husband, I envy his nights. You are fun.<br /><br />Men can become emotionally attached to a woman to the point of obsession, the mystery is what causes such intense chemistry. That's the dark area we can explore in our writing. (If you ever need consultation on a man's point of view for a character let me know). Lisabet once quoted something I think from her mother (was it Lisabet?) who warned her be careful of the first person you have sex with because they will have a powerful emotional hold on you. This is often true for men. My first experience was a disaster, as it so often can be, and yet i still remember her and wonder sometimes terribly how life has turned out for that girl now a middle aged woman and probably a grandmother. You never forget.<br /><br />I think every man wants his soul mate but for most this is only a dream. I think the problem is is that at that age when women are most physically perfect and appealing we decide things without thinking things through. We don;t give ourselves the chance to explore ourselves and find what we really want. I suspect that your long range and happy marriage, one that allows for Jeannie costumes in the bedroom, is at least partly the result of kissing a lot of frogs before finding your prince and not getting too attached to them. Self exploration rather than chastity.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-86962790668350931482014-11-29T17:17:18.101-05:002014-11-29T17:17:18.101-05:00Daddy X: ;-D
I have a Jeannie outfit that husband ...Daddy X: ;-D<br />I have a Jeannie outfit that husband has enjoyed a few times, while I wore a blonde wig.<br /><br />Garce--Interesting that you bring up the idea of men and women experiencing sex differently. I always counseled our 4 kids that "whenever Winky comes out to play, he needs to wear a raincoat." Which made everyone laugh at the dinner table when daughter was only about 5 and wanted to know who "Winky" was. Of course I told her later. But husband was the one to tell the boys about how emotionally-involved they could become, just having sex with a female. I always thought only women created that "perfect HEA" in their minds after having sex, just to make themselves feel less guilty...and many do that. Not that I ever felt guilty, just frequently disappointed. But the idea that men would get emotionally attached is very interesting, and would have seemed impossible to me when I was younger. I toyed with this idea in my latest book, "Only One Man Will Do", when the Russian KGB agent tells the biker queen he's fallen in love with, that she's wrong thinking men don't have feelings for women they fuck. He tells her that all men want to possess the woman they're sexing it up with, because that way they'll feel secure that she'll always be there when they're in the mood. And they won't have to compete with anyone for her favors. Must go back to the whole reason for marriage too: so the man knows the kids must be his, because she wouldn't dare have sex with anyone else. <br /><br />The men in my books are often surprised when their emotions get involved with their "fuck-buddy". I try to reflect reality for women, as I know it, which explains my lack of sales, I guess, since so few women think like me. And I try to reflect reality for men as husband, sons and brother, as well as a few close friends over the years, have explained things to me. I've had a few young men over the years, become close friends with me. They tell me about their lives, their aspirations, their loves, their kids. I supply them with cookies and a listening ear. We both know nothing will happen physically, but I'm sure there's some fantasizing going on, on both parts. Harmless, but fun.Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-8883095631074364002014-11-29T15:21:54.338-05:002014-11-29T15:21:54.338-05:00Mmmmm. Jeannie.Mmmmm. Jeannie.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-3700320452282759692014-11-28T15:30:05.376-05:002014-11-28T15:30:05.376-05:00Hi Fiona!
It's amazing, those were my fantasy...Hi Fiona!<br /><br />It's amazing, those were my fantasy objects too. Gilligan's Island I thought Mary Ann was kind of the sexy one because she had that perky energy and a robust perky body. Tina was a little intimidatng somehow, very high maintainance. But between them - definately Jeannie. We'd have written upa winning powerball ticket and then with that problem out of the way gone out into the world and explored it together.<br /><br />It would have been more interesting to me, then the sex, to try to visualize or imagine how an older woman would proceed to seduce a willing young man sitting on the sofa with her. My first thoughts are that it would be a matter of giving him permission to follow and express his desires. A young man might not be shy about making a move on a girl his own age, but with an older woman there is a certain fear of rejection. In some way rejection would be humiliating in a way it would not be with someone your own age. And yet I think a young man's natural curiosity, the awareness of her experience and probably skill, would make him wide open to the experience. I know it would have me.<br /><br />In a better world I would have been seduced as a young man by an older woman, someone like yourself perhaps, and thrown myself at her naked feet and begged her "Teach me!" It would be interesting to know how common this fantasy is among mature women as well, a woman's fantasy of taking a raw young virgin and opening up his sexuality together.<br /><br />Good for the young man too. After all every man thinks he's a good driver and a great lover. I can only tell you how many good drivers there really are out there. You would probably know better the answer to the other part of that. The fact is, and this would be an interesting theme topic, men experience the act of sex very differently emotionally and physically than women do, which is why its such a jump to write about sex from the side of the other gender. Men often start out thinking women experience it the same way we do and that's why most of us are too often incompetent lovers unless women guide us.<br /><br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-56178050847958761012014-11-28T15:11:36.603-05:002014-11-28T15:11:36.603-05:00Hi Daddy X!
Well, as every Ray Bradbury fan knows...Hi Daddy X!<br /><br />Well, as every Ray Bradbury fan knows paper catches fire and burns at exactly 451o fahreinheit. So I'll be alright. Though I don;t think i would bake a pizza this way. Have a good thanksgiving!<br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-91230489384051863632014-11-27T15:33:45.304-05:002014-11-27T15:33:45.304-05:00Husband says his top fantasies as a boy were Genie...Husband says his top fantasies as a boy were Genie, Samantha (from Bewitched) and of course, both of the girls from Gilligan's Island...at once. I smile. I wanted to be Genie and Samantha, but like you, I always chafed for them at being so constricted by the guys who were so dull and boring. With all of that power, they'd choose to not use them? Either we were supposed to believe those guys had "magic peens", or else that all powerful females long to be dominated by dull, boring and stupid men. As you say, an insecure man's fantasy.<br /><br />I seriously hoped she'd have some hot sex with the guy, in your vignette. Being the older woman myself, who feels totally invisible to younger, hot men, I miss their attention, though I do amuse myself thinking of how I would surprise them with my sexual skills, if the world was a different place. But then I remember how, when I was younger, most were so disappointing: no idea of how to please a woman, no desire in learning how, and too quick to fall asleep afterwards. <br /><br />I'd be interested to read what happens after this short story ends. <br /><br />Hope you enjoy everything you "gobble" up today. And if that includes some making of the beast with two backs, all the more to be thankful for! Cheers!Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-37192852449660217122014-11-27T11:29:39.911-05:002014-11-27T11:29:39.911-05:00Actually, that was the part of the story that prom...Actually, that was the part of the story that prompted my comment. Momma and I are going over to my sister's in SF for Thanksgiving, Be careful of that bag trick. I've heard of it catching fire. Don't set your oven over 400 or so. Don't use the broiler.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-43903411284530343942014-11-26T20:59:37.377-05:002014-11-26T20:59:37.377-05:00Hi Sacchi!
Have you seen season 3 of American Hor...Hi Sacchi!<br /><br />Have you seen season 3 of American Horror Story: Coven"? I was telling Lisbet about it. I have a crush on Myrtle Snow these days. I adore her when she speaks. I wish I could write like that. I recommend to anybody - google dialogue from that show to learn what a witch speech sounds like done right.<br /><br />The character here speaks for me. Sometimes I fantasize about having Jeannie the genie as a lover and bringing her out into the world to explore herself and become goddess like instead of living a small life as an astronaut's housewife.<br /><br />Garce Garceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-7252375317270921662014-11-26T20:54:43.044-05:002014-11-26T20:54:43.044-05:00Hi Daddy X!
How's your Thanksgiving going? I...Hi Daddy X!<br /><br />How's your Thanksgiving going? I made our turkey a day early and just took it out of the oven. So far so good. I roast mine in a big paper bag which makes it self basting when it works. When it works that is.<br /><br />Actually there was a piece of my real life in this, which was the paragraph about her father and the comic book and the refrigerator. That part is true. My dad was the managing editor of the Rawlins Daily Tribune in 1963 and was watching TV news at the moment Oswald was shot in front of the live TV cam. At that moment I had just read the origin story of the Flash and was digging through jars and leftovers in the fridge looking for stuff to mix to give me super powers. I heard him yell from the living room "They shot Oswald!" and BAM he was out the door to the newspaper and we didn't see him for days.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-57453675120400652042014-11-26T20:38:27.686-05:002014-11-26T20:38:27.686-05:00Hi Lisabet!
You know how it is on a lucky day whe...Hi Lisabet!<br /><br />You know how it is on a lucky day when your characters are doing the work, there was a moment when she said "Whee! I'm Sorceress Barbie" and it made me laugh. I got the image by googling "Sorceress Barbie".<br /><br />The working title for this was "Bag Boy". When I was sitting in a coffee shop scribbling out the rough on a legal pad with a pencil I originally imagined this as a vampire story where the woman would go out into the parking lot and be met by a friendly vampire that was sort of making it his territory and then they would have a conversation about getting old. But when I began typing it up it went in this other direction. To my way of thinking its really about seduction versus coercion.<br /><br />It's kind of a seed story, the kind of thing that you write and hang onto and then unpack it some day to develop another idea with.<br /><br />Garce <br />Garceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-39871921054857268922014-11-26T13:47:26.649-05:002014-11-26T13:47:26.649-05:00What a great TV show this would make! But no produ...What a great TV show this would make! But no producer could be trusted to treat it with same deft touch that you do.Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-30843931499688858812014-11-26T12:51:12.840-05:002014-11-26T12:51:12.840-05:00"They" say an author should 'write w..."They" say an author should 'write what they know'. The way you weave your experiences throughout your stories is why.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-88514473770453251412014-11-26T06:11:11.138-05:002014-11-26T06:11:11.138-05:00This is wonderful! I was holding my breath, waitin...This is wonderful! I was holding my breath, waiting for the side-swiping horror you so often drag out of your head. And then, a happy ending! How delicious!<br /><br />And yet there's wisdom here too. I applaud your character for sending her "slave" away. <br /><br />Great vignette! (Where in the world did you get such a totally perfect image?)Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.com