tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post8869930977142780667..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: How To Overcome Professional Jealousy Without Really TryingAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-22525559935779784842016-07-27T01:23:32.092-04:002016-07-27T01:23:32.092-04:00Giselle, you seem to have carved out your own nich...Giselle, you seem to have carved out your own niche - and you're not the kind of erotic writer who writes the stuff sneakily, using a different persona (though there is Lexi Wood). :) You seem like a success on your own terms.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-62175467562866315522016-07-24T18:30:21.233-04:002016-07-24T18:30:21.233-04:00If one component of success is having people envy ...If one component of success is having people envy you (I should look up the difference between envy and jealousy) then I envy, not your success, but your talent and ability to do all you do and even support yourself by your writing.. Maybe it would be more accurate to say that I admire you for it, but maybe that's a form of envy. Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-62027709334027755022016-07-23T14:34:15.690-04:002016-07-23T14:34:15.690-04:00Awww that's so sweet of you. My grandma is pro...Awww that's so sweet of you. My grandma is proud of me too. It means a lot. :-)Giselle Renardehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15955755448116234634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-22999134631575823582016-07-23T03:03:14.280-04:002016-07-23T03:03:14.280-04:00How nasty your colleagues are!
Jeez, if they thin...How nasty your colleagues are!<br /><br />Jeez, if they think you're lazy, when you publish a new book every couple of weeks, whatever would they think of me?<br /><br />You've nailed it here. Yes, you can burn up all your energy and money on chasing the next fad and screaming your name to the rooftops.<br /><br />Or you can write, and think, and have a life.<br /><br />I know which one I'd choose.<br /><br />That being said, I'm hugely proud of the fact that you are supporting yourself on your writing, even at a very modest level. Despite what your so-called friends say, that's a major accomplishment. Very few of us could do that.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-27530665863355483652016-07-22T23:15:58.527-04:002016-07-22T23:15:58.527-04:00Professional jealousy is a very strange thing. I n...Professional jealousy is a very strange thing. I noticed that when I was in RWA a lot of my chapter "buddies" were jealous of me, at a time when I was getting rejection after rejection from my publisher, and on top of that, my father was dying. I certainly didn't see myself as anyone who could rationally be the object of professional jealousy.<br /><br />One evening when I was standing outside the auditorium where the RITA ceremony had been held, I found myself chatting with Nora Roberts. She'd won her umpteenth RITA, so of course I congratulated her. She said, holding up her statuette, "Yeah, it's been awhile since I won one of these."<br /><br />Gobsmacked, I realized that Nora Roberts (NORA ROBERTS!!!) had felt professional jealousy when other authors took home the award she felt she deserved.<br /><br />Obviously she didn't perceive herself the same way others saw her and her career.<br /><br />Since that time, I banged into a fairly huge writer's block, and have seen writers who started at about the same time I did achieve enormous success on less talent. Why? A number of them spend a lot of money on promo and marketing--and they have backgrounds in promo and marketing. Others have--yep--gotten lucky.<br /><br />And they write more than I do. So am I jealous? Not really.<br /><br />Writing isn't the most important thing to me in life. <br /><br />It isn't even one of the top five.<br /><br />Life isn't meant to be lived in front of a computer, writing tales about imaginary people, their imaginary lives and their imaginary successes.<br />Suz dehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17236960359162948178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12773038637385455372016-07-22T23:14:41.195-04:002016-07-22T23:14:41.195-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Suz dehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17236960359162948178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-30800198903679577922016-07-21T11:37:31.507-04:002016-07-21T11:37:31.507-04:00I don't know how to gauge success beyond a sen...I don't know how to gauge success beyond a sense of satisfaction with ourselves. That and how far have we have come in our efforts. I don't compare myself with others if I can help it. Whoever you compare yourself with can depend more on your mood than your personal achievements. If I compared myself to a popular author, I'd feel inadequate. Then I'll come upon a homeless guy at a traffic light. <br /><br />Sighhh...<br /><br />There's nothing wrong with pushing ourselves to do better in our chosen field. Some may write better if they see it as a competition, but we are really just challenging ourselves. Confidence may be key in that case.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.com