tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post8889996587096243929..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: On Marriage, Italian, Detectives, and the Internet of TreesAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-63982863198800774832016-05-05T16:37:57.730-04:002016-05-05T16:37:57.730-04:00Agreed on both counts. I picked up one (printed) b...Agreed on both counts. I picked up one (printed) book published by Riverdale Ave and saw serious formatting errors while flipping through it quickly to see how long it was. They publish a lot of great writing, so I'm sad about how this might be hurting them and their authors. <br /><br />I loved Juliet Takes a Breath, for example, which is a queer YA novel out from Riverdale, but it, too, needed better editing.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-24661554774585230632016-05-05T16:36:18.260-04:002016-05-05T16:36:18.260-04:00Debra's book isn't self-published, but I t...Debra's book isn't self-published, but I think problems with editing dog certain ebook publishers and small presses as well. <br /><br />I loved the Lahiri book! I hope you do, too!Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-47301419526929869542016-05-05T16:35:29.183-04:002016-05-05T16:35:29.183-04:00The changes you describe sound really disconcertin...The changes you describe sound really disconcerting and cruel. Untangling the Knot definitely discusses situations like this, and the ambivalence they bring out.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12999613610659264362016-05-05T16:34:22.304-04:002016-05-05T16:34:22.304-04:00Worth it! I hope you like it!Worth it! I hope you like it!Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-53658890335225847072016-05-05T16:34:08.267-04:002016-05-05T16:34:08.267-04:00agreed on the obscurity of white snakes as a title...agreed on the obscurity of white snakes as a title. I read and liked it, but when I tried to tell people about it I couldn't remember what it was called!<br /><br />I thought The Tattered Heiress was a more satisfying read. It was more substantial and had more room for plot and characterization.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-5363342373842580242016-05-05T16:33:11.820-04:002016-05-05T16:33:11.820-04:00This book definitely addresses that topic. There a...This book definitely addresses that topic. There are many poly authors or authors who would prefer not to get married or various other perspectives.<br /><br />I can't speak to the feelings of a gay male, but I think the marriage equality movement has involved a lot of homogenization that made me uncomfortable. Queer people are "just like you," mainstream person... We just want the white picket fence, etc. We're just queer because we don't have a choice.<br /><br />A lot of that stuff is weird from where I'm standing. I'm not monogamous. I'm not comfortably in any label or identity. There is a way in which I do have a choice, because I can choose to be with more socially acceptable partners (I have enough attraction to men for that). But I don't seem to be happy that way... I just think a lot of what got popularized around this movement flattened queerness and packaged it neatly, and I appreciate the complication of the way Untangling the Knot discusses things.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-90617631917542303812016-05-05T16:29:49.264-04:002016-05-05T16:29:49.264-04:00My TBR list is also massive and growing.. I think ...My TBR list is also massive and growing.. I think that's just the way of things for those of us who love books!Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-62382506145992003252016-04-25T09:56:50.415-04:002016-04-25T09:56:50.415-04:00Ravenous was notorious for terrible editing.Ravenous was notorious for terrible editing.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-52180780000482930522016-04-24T14:25:20.188-04:002016-04-24T14:25:20.188-04:00Debra's book isn't self published, but yes...Debra's book isn't self published, but yes. I've noticed the problems. It's published by Riverdale Avenue Books, a New York press of fairly recent origin (maybe five years at this point) headed by an agent/editor who used to be involved with Ravenous Romance. Cecilia Tan publishes with them sometimes, too, but I haven't been impressed by the editing.Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-87925962526252557692016-04-24T14:23:57.347-04:002016-04-24T14:23:57.347-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-22538981106687121582016-04-24T14:18:25.695-04:002016-04-24T14:18:25.695-04:00The Tattered Heiress is a Lambda Finalist, too. The Tattered Heiress is a Lambda Finalist, too. Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-35947338845613367502016-04-24T13:14:26.098-04:002016-04-24T13:14:26.098-04:00What you say about the Debra Hyde book was a recen...What you say about the Debra Hyde book was a recent topic on the ERWA Writers list. People complaining that self-published material is often put out there either poorly edited or maybe not edited at all. A good editor is indispensable. Like Lisabet!<br /><br />And the Lahiri book just made it to my TBR. Thanks for that, AnnabethDaddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-29019074184002420802016-04-23T11:20:03.740-04:002016-04-23T11:20:03.740-04:00I would like to read Untangling the Knot as well. ...I would like to read Untangling the Knot as well. As a refugee from a heterosexual marriage that was uncomfortable and scary, I became one of those who wanted same-sex relationships to be out of reach of legal restrictions and conventional assumptions. Marriage (like prison) was not something I ever wanted to enter again. In the past, same-sex relationships were simply invisible to the government, the law, employers, and all other authorities. This meant that two men or two women who had lived together for 60 years were considered "single," and any private agreements between them were no one else's business. Then something started happening (at least in Canada): all levels of government began treating long-term same-sex couples as "married" for the purpose of denying tax deductions and even unemployment benefits, even though none of us could claim any of the benefits of legal marriage. (Crucially, the partner of someone who needed emergency medical care or who was dying could be kept away by the blood relatives, even if they had disowned the sick/injured gay person years before.) This situation was scarier than marriage! This is why I changed my mind and eventually tied the knot. I'm sure some other gay people are still not convinced that marriage is ever in our interests (& I'm not sure if there is a gender gap in the pro vs. anti same-sex marriage debate). Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-82530171385418846382016-04-23T11:03:54.383-04:002016-04-23T11:03:54.383-04:00I reviewed that first Charlotte Olmes mystery too,...I reviewed that first Charlotte Olmes mystery too, and I noticed that The Tattered Heiress has been nominated for a Golden Crown award. That's high on my list of books to be read when I have a spare moment.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-80039837381761741092016-04-22T22:36:25.212-04:002016-04-22T22:36:25.212-04:00Thanks for reminding me to read The Tattered Heire...Thanks for reminding me to read The Tattered Heiress! It's one of those things i've been meaning to do, so now I've ordered it. I liked the first one in the series, Of White Snakes and Misshaped Owls (rather too obscure a title, I think), and reviewed it. Debra and I have been friends and colleagues for many years, and hang out from time to time. I've heard wonderful things about All the Birds in the Sky, too, and definitely want to read it. I should take the summer off from writing (or pretending to write) and get some reading done. Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-27008161424092154912016-04-22T08:40:01.103-04:002016-04-22T08:40:01.103-04:00Also, with regard to Untangling the Knot, I recent...Also, with regard to Untangling the Knot, I recently got into a discussion/argument with a gay male author who claimed that the focus on gay marriage has made traditional gay sexual practices (cruising, etc.) somehow illegitimate, and that this was in some sense a violation of gay culture. I thought his position was rather strange, but then, I'm not a gay male. I'm wondering whether anyone in this book addresses the "monogamization" of queerness has affected the LGBTQ world.<br /> Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-9478853768734209172016-04-22T08:36:23.738-04:002016-04-22T08:36:23.738-04:00All four of these are going on my TBR list. (Sigh....All four of these are going on my TBR list. (Sigh...) Sometimes when I contemplate aging, I console myself with the notion that maybe I'll finally have time to read everything I want to!<br /><br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.com