tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post1647285183709031643..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Who Goes There?Ashe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-14421344637245223732016-11-06T13:13:40.938-05:002016-11-06T13:13:40.938-05:00Amen, Annabeth. I was thinking the same thing.Amen, Annabeth. I was thinking the same thing.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-1611728602905958722016-11-02T19:49:45.872-04:002016-11-02T19:49:45.872-04:00It's definitely a sign of self-awareness to re...It's definitely a sign of self-awareness to recognize that we come off differently to different people and in different contexts. I think, though, that part of that is an invitation to consider our behavior. I have to say I felt pretty disturbed reading about the encounter in the coffee shop. I've been that girl, plenty of times. The thing is that a certain sort of stare can be a precursor to all sorts of creepy behavior. You have no way of knowing what the person is going to do next, and I learned the hard way that it wasn't safe to give people too much benefit of the doubt. These days, I move when I feel uncomfortable, just like that girl did. <br /><br />"While admiring her, and expecting nothing from her"<br /><br />I'm so frustrated when people (vast majority guys) say things like this. I expect things when I'm out in public. I expect to be able to go to a coffee shop and mind my own business. What a lot of people don't seem to understand is that this sort of "admiration" isn't really so free and simple. It often comes at a price of uncertainty and fear for the person being "admired." And it can carry an intrusive weight.<br /><br />"There are women whose breasts are so outstanding, that even dressed no man can see beyond them to the woman within, anymore than they can peek over a mountain range."<br /><br />This is really frustrating to me, too. I'm primarily attracted to women. There are women who are so gorgeous to me that it's sort of hard to breathe around them. <i>But I never stop seeing them as people.</i> No matter how fantastic her breasts are, I know there's a woman within. It's hard to describe how it feels to hear men talking this way, particularly as a queer woman. I don't want to be looked at like that, and I also am capable of feeling powerful attraction without treating other people like that.<br /><br />So I know this might come off harsh, but I've been thinking about it all week and I felt I owed it to you to say something. I don't want to walk around the world and get treated like a zoo animal, and I know lots of other people who have similar feelings. I think you're a thoughtful person, and you could examine this behavior and come up with a way to act better.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-89857858729480640582016-10-29T14:25:41.164-04:002016-10-29T14:25:41.164-04:00As usual, Garce, you've expanded the topic. It...As usual, Garce, you've expanded the topic. It's true that we all play different roles in different contexts. When I began teaching first-year courses in a university, I had a favourite pair of lace-up boots which I often wore with a black skirt and ruffled white blouse. I came to realize that I was trying to look like a Victorian governess, since I felt I was in an updated version of that role. Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-85839051542945982022016-10-28T05:48:32.622-04:002016-10-28T05:48:32.622-04:00Hi Sacchi!
I hadn't thought much about person...Hi Sacchi!<br /><br />I hadn't thought much about personas until this topic came along, now I'm much more conscious of it. You have to tell me - maybe next monday - what its like to give erotica readings. I'm going to be teaching a small class next month about how to write erotic haiku. I've never taught anything before.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-63015431707426190012016-10-27T10:04:21.522-04:002016-10-27T10:04:21.522-04:00Which persona we put on depends almost entirely on...Which persona we put on depends almost entirely on who we put it on for, and what our perceptions are of them. <br /><br />My favorite public persona is the one I can put on for erotica readings. The audience knows more or less what to expect, but they're still shocked when someone my age channels characters being raw and explicit about sex. Hmm, I should be saving this thought for my own post net Monday. Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-67066764397960966102016-10-27T06:28:49.668-04:002016-10-27T06:28:49.668-04:00Hi Lisabet!
Reflecting the light of the others ar...Hi Lisabet!<br /><br />Reflecting the light of the others around us. That's really an interesting way of seeing it. Reflecting people back to themselves. We know ourselves a certain way in solitude and another way in interaction. Which is the closest to who we are? We are shaped by events mostly with our mothers that happened before we turned five years old, things we don't even remember. Who are we?<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-14126042950490340062016-10-26T08:16:33.927-04:002016-10-26T08:16:33.927-04:00Somehow it seems to me that all of these faces or ...Somehow it seems to me that all of these faces or costumes are real. Each one is a facet of who you are. Identity is not a constant, a fixed quantity, but rather, a flow that reveals different perspectives from moment to moment, reflecting the light of the others around us. <br /><br />"We cannot see our own face directly. Others can." I'm not sure I agree with this. You're not a creep, nor did you intend to act like one, but that's what the young woman saw... and she was mistaken.<br /><br />Lovely, thought provoking post, as usual! Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.com