tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post1947284350825028731..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: The Joy of CelibacyAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-78556477059941706512018-02-22T20:17:48.588-05:002018-02-22T20:17:48.588-05:00I love this distinction between celibacy and not g...I love this distinction between celibacy and not getting any--so important to remember that there are all kinds of choices to be made around sexuality, as Fiona said. Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-50236704854408499142018-02-20T23:29:11.217-05:002018-02-20T23:29:11.217-05:00Girls shouldn't need a reason to say "no....Girls shouldn't need a reason to say "no." I read a quote in MS magazine years ago, that said, "Sexual freedom is the right to say yes, AND the right to say no." Or, as Melina Mecouri in "Never on a Sunday," said in the movie where she played a town hooker who loves her job, to a man who is mad that he offered her more money, yet she's taking a young man home with her, "In my line of work, I have to like them. I don't like you."Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-10673228270807558082018-02-20T17:41:26.624-05:002018-02-20T17:41:26.624-05:00Having "come of age" slightly before bir...Having "come of age" slightly before birth control pills were easily available--my senior year in college the infirmary doctors just began to prescribe them for girls who were formally engaged--I have a misty nostalgia for the days when the possibility of unwanted pregnancy kept dating (some of the time) to the foreplay stage. There was more time for sexual tension, and girls had a good excuse for saying "no." Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-70673316068645926782018-02-19T11:50:24.559-05:002018-02-19T11:50:24.559-05:00This explains a lot about why I find your writing ...This explains a lot about why I find your writing so accessible and so insightful. You think deeply, and seem to have the ability to read and think like both men and women. This is what attracted me to this website in the first place: your words. And for that, I thank you.<br /><br />I married my husband for 2 reasons: he was the best I ever had in the sack (and considering my colorful and rebellious past history, that was quite an accomplishment!) But also he could talk with me on the same level that women talk to each other. He was not afraid to discuss feelings and emotions. He could present himself as vulnerable to me, without any hesitation or embarrassment. And we could talk about thinks that mattered...not just about sports, weather, current events, etc., though we did talk about those things also.<br /><br />He told me that when he was growing up, with 3 brothers and 3 sisters, he was the gawky, geeky one, who grew very tall quickly and used to knock things over because he didn't know where his body ended. So he decided to be friends with girls, since they always chose the jerk guys to date. So he became their confidantes...the ones they cried to when their hearts were broken. And his grief that he shared with them was real, partly because he knew he'd treat them better than that, yet they'd never consider him as boyfriend material. <br /><br />So I figured it was my lucky night, when I met him. And we've been together ever since. Men who always treat women as "things" don't know what they're missing. Their relationships are superficial, hence always unsatisfying...but they will never be able to figure out why until they "grow up", and begin to think like a human being. Like you do. <br /><br />We need more of you in the world, Garce. Look at what "toxic masculinity" has done--the damage is all around us. We need more men willing to put aside their egos and their chest-thumping, in order to achieve our full potential as a species. Otherwise we will destroy ourselves.Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-24880926631066824232018-02-18T00:17:33.849-05:002018-02-18T00:17:33.849-05:00Bob is the guy who worships the narrator's vag...Bob is the guy who worships the narrator's vagina. He just stares at it in wonder.<br /><br />Very insightful post, Garce.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-72136866991959400272018-02-17T12:10:36.223-05:002018-02-17T12:10:36.223-05:00Heh. That makes sense, if you were a tech guy, tho...Heh. That makes sense, if you were a tech guy, though there is a nice guy named Bob in one of the monologues. :)Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.com