tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post3649463532981947952..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Love the One You're WithAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-77356674056997035962009-09-22T07:40:48.536-04:002009-09-22T07:40:48.536-04:00Good points, Helen. I'll keep that in mind and...Good points, Helen. I'll keep that in mind and make sure my characters don't come across as individual horn dogs...LOL<br /><br />And you're right, technique is everything!<br /><br />~ JennaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-42748392983797096652009-09-21T21:35:27.751-04:002009-09-21T21:35:27.751-04:00Jenna, interesting idea, using masturbation as a w...Jenna, interesting idea, using masturbation as a way to raise the sexual temperature before throwing two characters into bed with each other. But I wonder if it always works, or if sometimes it makes the characters seem like individual horn dogs, rather than two people taking time to build a relationship.<br /><br />I like the idea, but I think you should give yourself more credit as a writer. It's not the technique, it's the way YOU handle it that makes it work. And I could say the same about the act of masturbation itself. ;)Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10832774182683343435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-71225956636562648032009-09-21T14:24:46.686-04:002009-09-21T14:24:46.686-04:00Hi Marci,
Pretty sure you're not the only on...Hi Marci, <br /><br />Pretty sure you're not the only one who fantasizes in real life, LOL<br /><br />What do you mean you don't write much anymore, slacker? Being a publisher and raising a family shouldn't take <i>that</i> much time!<br /><br />*G* Kidding. You amaze me, and thanks for taking the time to stop by and comment on my little post!<br /><br />JennaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-54933116447133012242009-09-21T14:22:20.484-04:002009-09-21T14:22:20.484-04:00Hi Ash,
Yes, in retrospect my post today is merel...Hi Ash,<br /><br />Yes, in retrospect my post today is merely stating the obvious. I just hadn't thought about it much, LOL<br /><br />Thanks for commenting!<br /><br />JennaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-60860737843674909702009-09-21T13:47:13.885-04:002009-09-21T13:47:13.885-04:00I've seen this before, but never actually writ...I've seen this before, but never actually written it into one of my stories. Of course, I write <i>so</i> many. HAHAHAHA Yeah, not many anymore. LOL But it certainly makes sense to have the hero/heroine fantasizing about each other before the final act. Isn't that what we do in real life? (grin) Okay, perhaps I should speak for myself. LOL<br /><br />MarciMarci Baunhttp://www.freyasbower.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-17094300953549975662009-09-21T13:40:51.149-04:002009-09-21T13:40:51.149-04:00Hi Jenna,
Great post, and an interesting discover...Hi Jenna,<br /><br />Great post, and an interesting discovery in some respects regarding your characters' fantasies. However, if you're including these scenes of self-love as segues into hero and heroine getting squishy, it makes sense that the solo scenes would include a strong element of anticipation/build-up.<br /><br />Best,<br /><br />AshAshley Listerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11997769708965362938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-87411355217583109112009-09-21T13:04:56.607-04:002009-09-21T13:04:56.607-04:00LOL Jude,
Can't wait to get your take on this...LOL Jude,<br /><br />Can't wait to get your take on this!<br /><br />~ JennaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-86207915998327305202009-09-21T12:37:53.596-04:002009-09-21T12:37:53.596-04:00Interesting post. Yes, masturbation in order to ge...Interesting post. Yes, masturbation in order to get a little sex play into a book is a really good way to encourage both characters who don't know each other, as well as those who do, to get moving. LOL I've used it, as many of you know. It's going to be fun writing on the topic. <br /><br />Great post Jenna!<br /><br />HugsJude Masonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14067166768734750026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-40563953622328537222009-09-21T09:25:08.720-04:002009-09-21T09:25:08.720-04:00Hi Margery,
I think we all have, or might have to...Hi Margery,<br /><br />I think we all have, or might have to at some point, when writing shorter works. <br /><br />I do think that anthology idea has promise! LOL<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by,<br /><br />JennaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-5638100878306989582009-09-21T09:22:58.143-04:002009-09-21T09:22:58.143-04:00Good points, Lisabet. I guess it's largely abo...Good points, Lisabet. I guess it's largely about the fantasy, isn't it?<br /><br />Thanks for commenting,<br /><br />JennaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-71322014561791314942009-09-21T09:22:34.273-04:002009-09-21T09:22:34.273-04:00I've certainly used this technique. I think yo...I've certainly used this technique. I think you're exactly right, it gives us a chance to express that yearning with bringing the characters together yet. My story "Turning Cards" had a scene exactly like that. She was very turned on by him, but wasn't sure yet how interested he was. <br /><br />It would be interesting to come up with a group of stories that portrayed self-love as a satisfying experience. A challenge!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-58374309437458534372009-09-21T04:53:02.002-04:002009-09-21T04:53:02.002-04:00Hello, Jenna,
I think that almost everyone fantas...Hello, Jenna,<br /><br />I think that almost everyone fantasizes when they masturbate. Certainly all my characters do. Even the men. <br /><br />I have a long masturbation scene in Exposure where Stella is thinking about Jimmy, imagining what he might do to her. Ruby's Rules contains several scenes of self-loving, each one driven by images of another person being present.<br /><br />The point of fantasy is to perhaps introduce a bit of unpredictability into the experience. After all, if you're completely in charge, well, it's a bit boring isn't it? No build up. No sudden surprises. No veering off into taboo territory. Fantasy allows another individual to seem to take control.<br /><br /><br />Warmly,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.com