tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post4013036546210913972..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: A Night at the Writers GroupAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-83361929182730714002015-09-10T08:46:38.415-04:002015-09-10T08:46:38.415-04:00Serious thought: I'm troubled by the way this ...Serious thought: I'm troubled by the way this conversation seems to accept that beauty and youth are connected. Do they have to be? I feel like one way of making the argument that seems to be running through this, Garce, would be to say it's mistaken to equate the two. The thing you're calling "interesting" might be "beautiful," no? Especially if we let go of that false equation of youth and beauty? I would argue that the idea that men can be attractive when old but women can't is plain sexism, and that this thing that's being called interesting is actually beauty, hidden from us by societal cues we've learned. Of course, this isn't to say young people can't be beautiful, too. I just think it's a much more interesting (beautiful) world when we separate age from beauty.<br /><br />Funny thought: I so feel you on the apron. I have definitely learned the hard way that I should at least put an apron on when cooking--doing it totally naked is far too risky. :)Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12042675666399509282015-09-06T10:21:22.656-04:002015-09-06T10:21:22.656-04:00Momma X's favorite is "Put your tongue ba...Momma X's favorite is "Put your tongue back in your mouth," as she takes me by the ear.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-7741738363046366992015-09-06T10:18:19.247-04:002015-09-06T10:18:19.247-04:00Not quite sure if Fiona's take on older men an...Not quite sure if Fiona's take on older men and sex is totally right. As one of those, I find I need to be careful when glomming on women. Many people are disgusted by what they perceive as a 'dirty old man' eyeing up someone younger than they. I certainly don't want to embarrass anybody or creep them out. So I try to stay surreptitious about it. That said, a craggy look can be quite attractive on a man, not so much for women.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-81115882581926936862015-09-05T18:51:58.330-04:002015-09-05T18:51:58.330-04:00Hi Lisabet!
My argument exactly . . . .
GarceHi Lisabet!<br /><br />My argument exactly . . . .<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-74375429043685862572015-09-05T18:49:57.136-04:002015-09-05T18:49:57.136-04:00Hi Fiona!
I guess it all depends on how we're...Hi Fiona!<br /><br />I guess it all depends on how we're wired, but i still find mature women the sexiest. But that's me. The last story I sold to Mammoth was "Soul Naked" about a much younger man involved with a much older woman. Now Mammoth is gone. That's so sad. The world is changing too fast. Sorry too I missed that braless tank top.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-52287658993148731812015-09-05T18:45:46.149-04:002015-09-05T18:45:46.149-04:00I think at any age we all want to feel desired. I...I think at any age we all want to feel desired. I think when we no longer feel anyone's eyes on us that's when people start to let themselves go. Sometimes the nicest thing you can do for someone is to lust after them.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-59096400861599744742015-09-04T14:16:16.528-04:002015-09-04T14:16:16.528-04:00I got my first one, a small flower on my right bre...I got my first one, a small flower on my right breast, when I was in college in the 70s and the only women who had them were Cher and hookers. It was to be a memento of my wild youth, to carry into old age. 20 years later, to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary, I got my husband's name in a heart tattooed on my upper thigh. I planned the next one on the drive home. I did that for a few years, calling it my mid-life crisis, while I was in my early 40s. Husband once asked me, "If I let you keep getting tattoos..." I interrupted him, "Excuse me, LET me? It's my body and if I want to cover every inch of it, it's none of your damn business." He grimaced and said, "Okay then, if I don't say anything about your getting so much ink, promise you won't leave me for 2 hot, young men in a convertible?" I smiled and nodded and he's never complained since then.<br /><br />I have 10 right now, but some have been worked on twice. Most recent was a tribute to my late Mom, that finally allowed me to stop crying daily, a year after she passed away. A columnist I admire once said that tattoos can be the "outward manifestation of a prayer." And that's what all of mine are--deeply meaningful to me, they express what's important to me: husband, kids, family, along with the added bonus of seeming rebellious, since most women my age still don't have much ink. I enjoy seeing opprobrium or disapproval on the face of people looking at me when I'm wearing revealing clothing. Otherwise I'm a boring, happily-married older woman who works way too many hours for too little money, and whose kids tease her for having taught them the world revolves around sex...which I still believe.Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-11659647644359929712015-09-04T08:40:49.301-04:002015-09-04T08:40:49.301-04:00Tattoos? Hmm. I'll have to revise my image of ...Tattoos? Hmm. I'll have to revise my image of you, Fiona!<br /><br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-59249827487662766812015-09-04T08:40:15.963-04:002015-09-04T08:40:15.963-04:00This is maybe the clearest statement I've ever...This is maybe the clearest statement I've ever read from you of who you are and why you write erotica. I love it.<br /><br />I agree, also -- it's unusual, distinctive, slightly used people who attract my attention, not the perfect tens. They're boring -- both men and women.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12956157913371354722015-09-03T11:01:32.041-04:002015-09-03T11:01:32.041-04:00For women, too, the hottest thing about a man (or ...For women, too, the hottest thing about a man (or alternative prospective fuck buddy) can be how much she feels desired. But women do have a sort of filtering system that shuts out the appeal of stalkers or skanky leches who don't desire her for anything other than a few minutes of impersonal rutting. Although in certain moods she might go there, too... Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-18914547537624355152015-09-02T22:47:47.957-04:002015-09-02T22:47:47.957-04:00Women are told constantly how unattractive they ar...Women are told constantly how unattractive they are when they get older. Trophy wives take their place, and they have to fight to be seen at all. The only other time I felt so invisible in public was when I was pregnant all 4 times. Even though it's proof positive that someone had sex with you, men ignore you then, just as they ignore me now. I like to amuse myself in public, wondering how long any of them could last if I applied my formidable, honed fellatio skills on them, or any of the dozens of other things I've learned over the years. That always makes me smile.<br /><br />I once had a young man (he was in his 20s, I was in my 40s) apologize to me for looking at my tits, which I had on display with a braless tank top with a shelf bra. I like to go braless whenever I can, and in the summer I indulge that...plus it shows off my tattoos. He said he felt guilty getting a boner because I was as old as his mother. I told him he'd given me a huge compliment, and not to spoil it by apologizing. <br /><br />Why is it that men are allowed to be sexy into their 80s and beyond, but women "top out" in their fifties? Because men can still produce a child? Give me a break! Sex is fun at any age, and certainly no less so than when I was worried about getting pregnant. Now that I don't have that worry anymore, as long as the tube of lube holds out, so can I!!<br /><br />And Garce, you've talked about your interest in interesting women before. You're the man we all dream of meeting, if we're not happily involved with someone. Well, you, along with Daddy X, Spencer, and the other guys here. Men who can talk about feelings and give insight into how/what they think about sex? I'm listening...Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-83830466728580050572015-09-02T11:20:40.926-04:002015-09-02T11:20:40.926-04:00I've always found there are things to enjoy ab...I've always found there are things to enjoy about most women. Beauty ( by way of association) includes youth. But the real aphrodisiacs are enthusiasm, an inquisitive nature, and desire for fulfillment no matter the age. For myself, the hottest thing about a woman is if she feels a desire for me.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.com