tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post4261447651868665590..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Monogamous Vanilla Housewife Seeks Nice Guy Husband For Lifetime Commitment and BDSMAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-85362104198156155592009-03-10T08:03:00.000-04:002009-03-10T08:03:00.000-04:00Hi Helen,Sorry I'm late commenting, only just catc...Hi Helen,<BR/><BR/>Sorry I'm late commenting, only just catching up. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes I think that the main difference between some vanilla relationships and the kinky equivilants, is that the kinky people see the dominance and submission that's wrapped up in things that pass unnoticed in a vanilla household. <BR/><BR/>Great post.Kim Darehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11086545242925686207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-13672317665103846842009-03-08T03:26:00.000-04:002009-03-08T03:26:00.000-04:00You know, vanilla used to be considered one of the...You know, vanilla used to be considered one of the most exotic of flavors. There's a reason why it's still around.<BR/><BR/>Lisabet, as for the soundness of my argument, feel free to poke holes in it as you laugh! It's not an exact analogy by any means, I know, but then maybe it really only applies best to me and the Hubster, in our not-so-vanilla-as-we-claim relationship ;)Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10832774182683343435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-62348449272604035162009-03-07T08:03:00.000-05:002009-03-07T08:03:00.000-05:00Vanilla you may be, but Vanilla with Chocolate Sau...Vanilla you may be, but Vanilla with Chocolate Sauce on top...or Hot Caramel... ;-) from someone who has known you a loooong time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-35920029654178900532009-03-07T05:40:00.000-05:002009-03-07T05:40:00.000-05:00I'm a litle worried! I'm wondering if my wife has ...I'm a litle worried! I'm wondering if my wife has a hidden sister...<BR/><BR/>seriously, that's lovely peice Helen, both thoughtful and funny.Verbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05689675959806544305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12010891788009156762009-03-06T23:57:00.000-05:002009-03-06T23:57:00.000-05:00Hmm. I'm not 100% convinced by your argument, Hele...Hmm. I'm not 100% convinced by your argument, Helen. However, I'm laughing too hard to really think about it in depth...<BR/><BR/>Whatever you are though, you're not vanilla!<BR/><BR/>Hope that you are having a fabulous time in Sin City.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-72150723775189785052009-03-06T23:27:00.000-05:002009-03-06T23:27:00.000-05:00Hey guys! I'm sitting in my hotel room in Vegas ri...Hey guys! I'm sitting in my hotel room in Vegas right now, getting ready for tomorrow morning, but I wanted to stop by and see what was up.<BR/><BR/>Chris, congrats on the 19 years! It's amazing all the give and take that goes on in a marriage, and most folks don't realize that's what's going on. I've seen more marriages disintegrate because the spouses don't understand that each partner is doing a hell of a lot of work, though maybe not the work the other person thinks they should be doing. I quite nagging the Hubster years ago about putting the dishes in the dishwasher because I realized he did things around the house I never thought of.<BR/><BR/>Jamie, weren't you the one talking about quietly tiptoeing into BDSM? You know more about it than you let on };) I wish you could have been with us at the Erotica Heritage Museum on Wednesday. The exhibit on BDSM and House of Gord was... quite interesting (I saw stuff I had never even imagined before, and I've got a hell of an imagination!).<BR/><BR/>Jude, I'm very glad you think I have something worth reading };) I know from BDSM couples I've talked to that they do a lot of give and take on all sorts of things, and not just in BDSM play. What they said about the day-to-day maintenance of the relationship sounded so much like my marriage that I had a hard time not laughing as I was listening. At some very basic level, all relationships have the same elements, no matter what the **flavor** of the relationship (vanilla, kink) may be.<BR/><BR/>I'm getting back to work now! I've got one more full day in Vegas and then I'm flying home on Sunday to meet my darling husband. Ta-taa!Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10832774182683343435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-86136758143508295672009-03-06T15:31:00.000-05:002009-03-06T15:31:00.000-05:00Hmm, a bunch of noobs. LOL Helen, you're entries a...Hmm, a bunch of noobs. LOL Helen, you're entries always crack me up and then I have to think about them for awhile before I post anything. <BR/><BR/>I definitely agree that a long term relationship has aspects of BDSM, or D/s. Somewhere at some time, one or the other of you will be dominant. It could be she rules the kitchen and he does what he's told. It could be the shop out back, he rules and she's the gofer. The bedroom, well I think that's also somewhere that one or the other tends to dominate, but it could change over time too. The concept of 50/50 give and take might look good on paper, but I don't think it's realistic either. <BR/><BR/>Now, having been married for over 35 years, I've finally got my hubby trained. He's got the 'yes, ma'am' down pat and knows when to shut his mouth. But, there are times when I know it's my turn to bow down and say those dreaded, 'yes, sir's' too. We survive and we love each other. Pretty scary. <BR/><BR/>HugsJude Masonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14067166768734750026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-39871802582662699342009-03-06T10:37:00.000-05:002009-03-06T10:37:00.000-05:00Cute and true, Helen. This May will be 28 years fo...Cute and true, Helen. This May will be 28 years for us and it has taken all of your B's, D's, S's and M's to get us this far, including some D/s...<BR/><BR/>Have fun at Eppiecon!<BR/><BR/>JamieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-82149109280770436822009-03-06T06:27:00.000-05:002009-03-06T06:27:00.000-05:00LOL and so true. We'll celebrate our 19th wedding ...LOL and so true. We'll celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary this year. It is a give and take and all that you said.Chris Reddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00429148293004912993noreply@blogger.com