tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post4823049466184965796..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: EpiphanyAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-56881930540618644332011-07-06T10:59:40.161-04:002011-07-06T10:59:40.161-04:00Hello, Jean,
It's funny, I don't remember...Hello, Jean,<br /><br />It's funny, I don't remember the physical part of this (or most of my adventures!) at all - only the emotional aspects.<br /><br />As I said to Mike, I really didn't understand the significance of this little vignette till much later in life.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-49970235226395212852011-07-06T10:58:23.100-04:002011-07-06T10:58:23.100-04:00Thank you, Kay Dee!
Always glad to coax out a smi...Thank you, Kay Dee!<br /><br />Always glad to coax out a smile from a friend.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-85072153332088708422011-07-06T10:45:49.749-04:002011-07-06T10:45:49.749-04:00Hello, Mike,
You know, I didn't realize how l...Hello, Mike,<br /><br />You know, I didn't realize how lucky I was until MUCH later.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-91992967962649505672011-07-05T17:54:32.557-04:002011-07-05T17:54:32.557-04:00This is a great sexual initiation scene, Lisabet -...This is a great sexual initiation scene, Lisabet - a genre that usually conveys more philosophical significance than physical ecstasy (because doing it well usually requires practice!).Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-17331322859055625052011-07-04T10:07:57.462-04:002011-07-04T10:07:57.462-04:00Hey Lisabet - nice...'freedom rings true' ...Hey Lisabet - nice...'freedom rings true' kind of post, perfect for our 4th celebration. Aren't epiphanies the best *grins*<br />Thanks for sharing part of your past/your life (the picture you used made me smile).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-24315743571183135282011-07-04T09:29:32.181-04:002011-07-04T09:29:32.181-04:00Lisabet, I've always found that public opinion...Lisabet, I've always found that public opinion is one thing. Familial pressure to be something your (I'm) not is something else entirely, and in the end, caving to that pressure puts such a wall between you that you realize it was never worth it, anyway. Not only does it limit you, but now your someone you were never supposed to be and those closest to you don't really know who you are at all.Jaime Sammshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756034484406953047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-36424828479179188602011-07-04T02:33:26.069-04:002011-07-04T02:33:26.069-04:00An inspiring piece, Lisabet. I don't think I&#...An inspiring piece, Lisabet. I don't think I've ever really felt this level of freedom. Even when I know what I want and I reach for it, I always expect there to be a price.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03057127302307624255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-30226408934502271542011-07-03T23:56:14.173-04:002011-07-03T23:56:14.173-04:00Greetings, Larion,
Sometimes it seems as though w...Greetings, Larion,<br /><br />Sometimes it seems as though women have gotten a raw deal, doesn't it. But then you ask men, and they think that they're the ones with the problems!<br /><br />Thanks for joining us here.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-21519173792485416252011-07-03T23:54:27.395-04:002011-07-03T23:54:27.395-04:00Hello, O'Neil,
Thanks so much for dropping by...Hello, O'Neil,<br /><br />Thanks so much for dropping by the Grip.<br /><br />Yes, it does seem like a golden age, especially in retrospect. However, I wonder whether it would feel the same, to go back to our old bodies with our current knowledge and experience. Part of the thrill was the newness of it all, and yes, the sense of transgression, of going beyond limits. <br /><br />There's a great sci fi novel by Bruce Sterling called HOLY FIRE. The protagonist is a woman over 100 years old who undergoes a (painful and difficult) genetic procedure to rejuvenate her body. Afterwards, she's very confused. She feels overwhelming lust because of her newly flowing hormones, but doesn't exactly know how to deal with her feelings. When I read this, I thought, "Yes, that's exactly right."Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-63402762437482428762011-07-03T23:47:42.743-04:002011-07-03T23:47:42.743-04:00Hey, Garce,
I knew you'd like this tale... ;^...Hey, Garce,<br /><br />I knew you'd like this tale... ;^)<br /><br />"It makes me wonder if women overall have more opportunity for sexual adventure than men do because they own the gate? Or would that have been a product of the time, considering how much women's sexual rules have changed since then."<br /><br />My personal view is that women have more obstacles put in front of them than men, when it comes to having a fulfilling sexual life. Men are expected to be sexual beings. Women are castigated as sluts and fallen women if they appear to enjoy sex. Still. Men never have to work for an orgasm; some women never experience one. And of course men don't get pregnant. It's ultimately the woman's responsibility to control conception, and believe me, the issue generates a great deal of anxiety. <br /><br />On the other hand, I came to realize that many, maybe most, men feel sexually deprived - they expect women to reject their sexual advances, and when they meet a woman who's sexually open, they're amazed and grateful. This is partly because, like women, THEY'VE been conditioned to believe that nice girls don't fuck. <br /><br />I really do think, sometimes, that society has really messed up traditional male/female expectations.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-21554626271463612522011-07-03T23:40:31.437-04:002011-07-03T23:40:31.437-04:00Hello, Kathleen,
It's never too late to learn...Hello, Kathleen,<br /><br />It's never too late to learn.<br /><br />And I'd say you're making up for lost time.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-65909853941165467282011-07-03T23:39:55.289-04:002011-07-03T23:39:55.289-04:00Greetings, Louisa,
Thanks for your comments. I lo...Greetings, Louisa,<br /><br />Thanks for your comments. I love the photo, too. I found it by searching Google images with the keywords "sexual freedom"!Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12768287303468504562011-07-03T23:39:05.907-04:002011-07-03T23:39:05.907-04:00Greetings, She,
I do think that there's a dif...Greetings, She,<br /><br />I do think that there's a difference between making a responsible personal choice and going with the moment regardless of the consequences. <br /><br />Also, especially when you're in a committed relationship, you sometimes end up choosing the less preferred alternative for the sake of the relationship. I'm not advocating being totally selfish. But if we examined the real reasons for choosing alternatives we don't want, we might find many of those reasons hollow and unconvincing.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-29523195140208267892011-07-03T23:35:46.152-04:002011-07-03T23:35:46.152-04:00Jaime,
I'd like to say that after that night,...Jaime,<br /><br />I'd like to say that after that night, I never let fear of public opinion control my behavior, but that's of course not true at all. One advantage of getting older, though, is that you (or at least I) become more comfortable resisting the pressures of society, more confident in choosing your own desires.<br /><br />(Does that make up for having a young body and lots of hormones? I suppose that's a useless question.)Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-8593837295247955562011-07-03T19:25:32.241-04:002011-07-03T19:25:32.241-04:00I agree that we have the freedom of choice as long...I agree that we have the freedom of choice as long as we're ready and willing to take the consequences. too few, i feat, enjoy the first and disregard the last. women, of all ages, should have the same 'freedom' as any male who doesn't and never has had to face the censure of possible results. you go, girl.Larion aka Larriane Willshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05044089414209140043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-12211363800392330722011-07-03T16:52:04.189-04:002011-07-03T16:52:04.189-04:00I remember the golden time well. Often, I've d...I remember the golden time well. Often, I've daydreamed of reliving the time. Envisioning the women is nice. Damn, I was so dumb back then. If guys like me could only have the bodies of our youth and the wisdom of age.O'Neil De Nouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03142721824657611738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-3598755277700998822011-07-03T14:42:04.633-04:002011-07-03T14:42:04.633-04:00When I wAs reading I felt some envy for that guy, ...When I wAs reading I felt some envy for that guy, what a powerful thing it must be, at any age but especially that one, to say to a hot girl take off your dress and then magically she does what you;ve told her. What a powerful feeling that must be. <br /><br />You mention over all the string of sexual adventures you've had. Of course i closed that door off to myself at age 19, so i can only speculate what that could have been like. But what I'm sure of is that women control the gates of sexual bliss. They open the gate willingly, or you can force it open and take your chances with the law, but the gate belongs to them. It makes me wonder if women overall have more opportunity for sexual adventure than men do because they own the gate? Or would that have been a product of the time, considering how much women's sexual rules have changed since then. What do you think?<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-66075813042690788242011-07-03T12:47:15.491-04:002011-07-03T12:47:15.491-04:00I wish I'd come to that conclusion far earlier...I wish I'd come to that conclusion far earlier in my life.Kathleen Bradeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347913255760493335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-21838682571421422192011-07-03T10:34:47.707-04:002011-07-03T10:34:47.707-04:00Lisabet,
Love this line: "The boundaries bet...Lisabet,<br /><br />Love this line: "The boundaries between love and lust were deliciously fluid." <br /><br />Thank you for sharing this moment, with such memorable detail. The discovery of that passionate journey happens most often as teens, but for some it's later. <br /><br />Plus, *great* opening photo! Wow.<br /><br />LouisaLouisa Baciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12465650692407681636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-61211312059527819262011-07-03T10:08:14.615-04:002011-07-03T10:08:14.615-04:00Well said. You are so right. You have to make yo...Well said. You are so right. You have to make your own decisions. You are the one to live with those consequences. If it's wrong, well, you learn something. If it's right, you have a great experience. Not that I'm entirely free of living up to someone else's expectations but when I live only for my own expectations then I discover more about myself and have a wonderfuly experience that causes me to grow and become who I want to be. Thank you for sharing.Shehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376023103870884939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-40870987455011230162011-07-03T10:04:31.612-04:002011-07-03T10:04:31.612-04:00"You can't allow others to make your deci...<i>"You can't allow others to make your decisions for you."</i><br /><br />You don't know how long I labored under the belief that I was supposed to make my decisions based on what certain people wanted/expected of me. How incredible to know the world wouldn't end if I decided to do what I thought was right for myself. Thanks for the great post, LisabetJaime Sammshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756034484406953047noreply@blogger.com