tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post7886314569727360965..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Lost in the Forests of the PastAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-30541668743018099872018-11-28T06:23:23.581-05:002018-11-28T06:23:23.581-05:00I understand the burden imposed by this inheritanc...I understand the burden imposed by this inheritance of photos and letters, but you are also in possession of riches that many of us do not have. Try not to feel pressured - remember that you are honoring these family members by spending time with them, their images, their thoughts.<br /><br />As to why stuff gets stored in particular places, I had to laugh. I was thinking about all the different locations where I have photos or letters or cards or other items filed. Might have made sense to me when I put them there, but often I've forgotten now. And if anyone else were to find them (not that there IS anyone else, given I have no children), I'm sure they'd be as puzzled as you are about your parents' things.<br />Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-46584570662033154382018-11-26T22:55:36.297-05:002018-11-26T22:55:36.297-05:00I went through all of my mom's pictures before...I went through all of my mom's pictures before she passed on...but unfortunately, while she was slipping away from dementia. By the time I finally got all of them into some kind of chronological order, I sat with her, looking through them, and her comment was, "I'm sorry, but I don't know any of these people." Sigh. I'd bugged her for years to organize them, yet there they finally were, in order, and she wasn't able to tell me who some of the folks were.<br /><br />Yes, selling the house you grew up in can feel like another death in the family. My parents sold that house when I was in college. But even now, 40 years later, it figures into my dreams once in a while.<br /><br />I feel like you are cherishing their memories by doing right by their stuff. And passing along things that might have value to someone else, to the right people. It's a burden, but then, when you love someone, you do what they need you to do. Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.com