tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post8061338663883753775..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Will You Kiss Me?Ashe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-25749793393488512002015-10-26T19:45:01.405-04:002015-10-26T19:45:01.405-04:00Jean Roberta (who for some reason can't log in...<br />Jean Roberta (who for some reason can't log in to Google) said:<br /><br />Annabeth, I really hear you about not wanting a man's breath on your neck when you're kissing a girl for the first time (i.e. kissing a particular person for the first time). When I worked for an escort agency in the 1980s, I kept encountering men who wanted to watch me do more than kiss another woman. It did indeed feel like an expression of their sense of entitlement, and I always said no -- except for one weird time that I will probably post about here some time. (I haven't yet.) IMO, threesomes (including a scene in which one person only watches) should be based on clear consent and good faith on all sides, and not simply be an attempt to be "bad." Your "conservative turn" sounds to me more like a turn toward conservation of your integrity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-50448553038921137582015-10-23T11:39:14.337-04:002015-10-23T11:39:14.337-04:00You raise an interesting point with "a phase ...You raise an interesting point with "a phase that seems to involve sending every rebellious signal she can copy or invent." Especially when you're young (although older folks aren't necessarily exempt) the lines can be blurred between actual sexual and/or emotional attraction, and the impulse to be rebellious. There are worse ways than experimenting with non-binary sex to act out the urge to be transgressive, but it can make the world even more confusing for people working their way through finding their own non-conventional identity, Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-27228868134067881972015-10-23T02:01:28.526-04:002015-10-23T02:01:28.526-04:00I love this post, Annabeth. There's a beautifu...I love this post, Annabeth. There's a beautiful flow and spark to the overall theme, and giving us a little of yourself like this is always a delightful intimacy. Shared with hundreds of folks!Willsin Rowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07255684467269187446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-69366085599327171512015-10-22T23:47:23.966-04:002015-10-22T23:47:23.966-04:00I'm glad you followed your gut feeling here. I...I'm glad you followed your gut feeling here. I think it was a sign of growing maturity, even self-awareness, to realize that your previous persona was no longer a genuine expression of who you were.<br /><br />Hurts, though, to hear that you felt kissing girls was morally wrong. (Or was it the infidelity aspect that you were concerned about?)<br /><br />(<i>We love you too, Annabeth. Don't feel pressured!</i>)Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-5083139598600733492015-10-22T18:27:48.211-04:002015-10-22T18:27:48.211-04:00A kiss can be a powerful experience. Gets me weak ...A kiss can be a powerful experience. Gets me weak in the knees. Back in the day, I found that if I could get a woman to kiss deeply, the rest would often follow.Daddy Xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927663248424944119noreply@blogger.com