tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post8415740531124095233..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: It's ComplicatedAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-31502303519985065402016-04-07T13:48:28.619-04:002016-04-07T13:48:28.619-04:00"I was constantly encouraged to forgive men w..."I was constantly encouraged to forgive men who seemed pushy, manipulative, or even violent."<br /><br />This is so true, and I know it's been a factor many times in my life as well. I really appreciate your pushing back with this post, and I agree with everything you've said. <br /><br />It's an important point that many societal discussions around forgiveness seem to confuse what it actually is, or use multiple definitions interchangeably.Annabeth Leonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07455191827664110878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-23263219398838750282016-03-27T11:52:05.340-04:002016-03-27T11:52:05.340-04:00You're entirely right that forgiveness does no...You're entirely right that forgiveness does not equal trust. Being wary of people who have done harmful things in the past and not convincingly repented is a necessary survival mechanism.Sacchi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801164916418570059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-31148304091964603142016-03-26T11:50:06.562-04:002016-03-26T11:50:06.562-04:00In that case, I'm in favour of forgiveness. A ...In that case, I'm in favour of forgiveness. A central problem with this concept seems to be that not everyone understands it to mean the same thing.Jean Robertahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805088081675965859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-45604233590857546412016-03-26T05:23:29.872-04:002016-03-26T05:23:29.872-04:00Memory for the past is a survival tool. It's r...Memory for the past is a survival tool. It's rational to harbor mistrust toward someone who has harmed you in the past, until you see clear evidence that he or she has truly changed. And that sort of caution isn't necessarily antithetical to "forgiveness". Letting go of your own anger and hurt does not necessarily imply letting down your guard.Lisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.com