tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post8921187397934079272..comments2023-10-25T05:30:54.507-04:00Comments on Oh Get A Grip!: Getting Away From MeAshe Barkerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03390519279886657608noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-87734316349116656492009-06-02T05:07:33.046-04:002009-06-02T05:07:33.046-04:00Thanks, Helen,
It's a great topic. I could say a ...Thanks, Helen,<br /><br />It's a great topic. I could say a lot more, but... well, I'm sure the rest of you will pick up the ball and keep it rolling.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-41106820335541922672009-06-02T05:06:52.246-04:002009-06-02T05:06:52.246-04:00Hi, Kim,
I'm intrigued by your comment. I mean, I...Hi, Kim,<br /><br />I'm intrigued by your comment. I mean, I know you write M/M. But then again, you also mostly write BDSM, and I know that's a personal interest. Aren't you projecting some of your self into your male characters?<br /><br />Thanks for your input.<br /><br />Warmly,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-74081727154503403462009-06-01T19:59:32.835-04:002009-06-01T19:59:32.835-04:00This is exactly what I was hoping to hear when I s...This is exactly what I was hoping to hear when I suggested this topic! I love finding out how other writers handle the trickier aspects of story-telling. This was great, Lisabet!<br /><br />With regards to reality vs. expectation, you are dead on, but then again, it is fiction, not non-fiction we write.Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10832774182683343435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-19586699117329443932009-06-01T18:53:31.306-04:002009-06-01T18:53:31.306-04:00Hi Lisabet,
I'm always facinated by how different...Hi Lisabet,<br /><br />I'm always facinated by how different writers approach a subject - I'm the complete opposite in this case. I find it much easier to write about characters who are not like me.<br /><br />Take care,<br /><br />Kim Dare.Kim Darehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11086545242925686207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-17745230618146262152009-06-01T02:11:36.969-04:002009-06-01T02:11:36.969-04:00Hello, Jude,
You're completely right. The germ of...Hello, Jude,<br /><br />You're completely right. The germ of the emotion or the passion has to be personal, but it needs to be allowed to grow, to expand as you put it, in the characters we create.<br /><br />Looking forward to reading your take on this topic!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-75888555605230300992009-06-01T02:09:47.306-04:002009-06-01T02:09:47.306-04:00Hi, Molly,
Thanks for your comments. I think that...Hi, Molly,<br /><br />Thanks for your comments. I think that you have to put yourself into the scene, somehow. If you're squicked by lesbian sex, that is going to come through in your work. <br /><br />You might well find that if you revisit this story now, you'll be more comfortable opening the doors. After all, you've had seven years of growth, both as a person and as a writer.<br /><br />Best,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-60743600584701233302009-06-01T02:06:43.017-04:002009-06-01T02:06:43.017-04:00Hey, Garce,
I agree with you, that our personal i...Hey, Garce,<br /><br />I agree with you, that our personal issues, our suffering and our quests, always find their way into our writing. When they don't, the work seems flat and empty. The trick is to take those issues and experiences and transplant them into someone else. The interesting aspect of this type of heart transplant is that our personal concerns may morph into quite different in the context of someone else's personality and history.<br /><br />Warmly,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-55868465082126593182009-05-31T11:35:47.426-04:002009-05-31T11:35:47.426-04:00Nice post, Lisabet,
Sharing parts of ourselves is...Nice post, Lisabet,<br /><br />Sharing parts of ourselves is what we do as writers, I really don't think there's any way we can avoid it. We use our feelings, experiences and empathy so much in the things we create, there's got to be tidbits of me or you, or whoever writes, in our work. <br /><br />The challenge is, letting that part expand, grow into something that's not so much us, as our characters. Yes? Okay, then you jump into an alien or the other sex and where do we think we're going? LOL <br /><br />This is going to be a fun week. <br /><br />HugsJude Masonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14067166768734750026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-40221304315221614022009-05-31T10:28:30.288-04:002009-05-31T10:28:30.288-04:00I wrote my first f/f story back in 2002, and soon ...I wrote my first f/f story back in 2002, and soon discovered simply substituting 'she' for 'he' wasn't working for me. I thought I was comfortable with it, after all, I'd interviewed a lesbian friend at length, but most of the sex scenes are behind closed doors. If and when it ever sees publication, I'm either going to have to open the doors or risk fear of a slew of hate male from readers! I hope I can find that balance.Molly Danielshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01488325587798390008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9156334464585894857.post-67315709119022619432009-05-31T07:48:33.354-04:002009-05-31T07:48:33.354-04:00Hi Lisabet!
I thought this was a very thoughtful ...Hi Lisabet!<br /><br />I thought this was a very thoughtful post and highlights one of the difficulties of writing fiction. Early on I realised men characters in my stories were often too much like me, not more brave, not more noble, not more evil. Its a challenge to write someone different from yourself. Also, as you pointed out, the formula expectations of a commercial genre make it difficult to write characters that match the real world. With my vampire character Nixie, instead the genre vampire, elegant and remorseless, superior to humans, I tried to imagine what the world of a real vampire would be, while keeping some of the mythology. I think having a vampire for a lover would be like having a very dangerous crack addict for a lover. <br /><br />Its a challenge to imagine other worlds and other people. I think suffering can be a catlyst for that. When people suffer, sometimes it damages them. But if you suffer wisely it can open you to the situation of others.<br /><br />GarceGarceushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11160407485298015371noreply@blogger.com