By Morticia Knight
Wow.
There have already been some great posts on taboo this month, so I’m not sure how
I can top it *wink*. The timing is ironic, since this month also included an
Author Behaving Badly saga where an author kink-shamed someone publicly. On
Twitter. With screenshots from a private group. I’m not going to name and shame
this author, but rather discuss the fallout from this person’s actions and how others—both
readers and authors—responded to them. I’ll give you enough of an outline of
events so that if you weren’t a witness to it in social media, you can understand
what went down.
It all
began when said author took offense to someone asking for some erotic romance
books that included incest. The reader’s request was in a closed group on Facebook
specifically meant for people to share recommendations of M/M books. The reader
became curious about this kink after watching Game of Thrones. Since this rec
group has always been a safe space, the reader felt comfortable posting that question,
and indeed, many people jumped in with books they thought she might like (I
myself have read a few of them!). But this author took a screenshot of the post
and shared it on Twitter with commentary that amounted to how awful this person
was and that kink is. The reader was justifiably upset, since if her identity
were to somehow be discovered, it could hurt her professionally or personally. There
are plenty of us who don’t share the type of books we enjoy with our boss or
grandmothers!
The
outcry against the author was immediate, and she eventually had the good sense
to take down the tweet and acknowledge it was ‘a shitty thing to do’. But she continued
to double-down on Facebook and defend her position—explaining that it made her
embarrassed to be associated with the M/M genre and thought we should all be taking
the higher road and not fetishizing gay men by writing about such disgusting
taboo subjects. Several gay men chimed in at this point and reminded her that
they enjoy writing/reading about several of the subjects she decried, and that
even if they didn’t, the gay men of the world had never appointed her their
champion. Others commented that it seemed as if she was internalizing a bit of homophobia
based on her claim of being embarrassed that gay romance wasn’t more like het
romance. Hmm...
I
could go on for quite a while citing all the reasons why readers and authors
were upset by her actions and words. But did she have a point? Is writing/reading
about taboo subjects something we should be concerned about, something we
should stop? Where would we draw the line?
In my
opinion, we draw the line at pedophilia if we’re talking romance or erotica. Anything
involving a child is a hard no. It’s illegal for a reason. But then, so is incest,
right? Yeah, it is. And it’s super triggery for some and can destroy people’s
lives. At the same time, it was also a big plot point in a bestselling, classic
YA novel. I’m of course referring to Flowers
in the Attic by VC Andrews. Mainstream fiction, people. Pubbed in the seventies
with several movie adaptations to follow—including on television—and the incest
aspect was never glossed over. I read it when I was twelve, as did many of my
friends. I’ll also add at this point that I know people who have been in incestuous
relationships and that there are countries where marrying first cousins or an
aunt or uncle is legal. But right now, what I’m really discussing is fictional taboos.
We all
have our own personal boundaries when it comes to taboo subjects. Rape is very controversial
as well, and CNC (consensual non-consent) in the BDSM community can sometimes divide
kinksters. I wrote a CNC scene in my book Role Play (Play Series 1) and had
some pushback from a few readers who weren’t expecting it and the scene upset
them. Then there were readers who didn’t think the scene was all that taboo or
extreme. In erotic romance, there will always be those who will point the
finger at a kink and say, ‘for shame!’. We can’t squash our creativity to try
and please everyone. As an author, I write what I want to read. I figure, hey,
if I want to read it, then there are probably plenty of others out there who do
too!
