Showing posts with label possessions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label possessions. Show all posts

Monday, September 11, 2017

Traveling Light (#packing #possessions #anxiety)


Traveling LIght

By Lisabet Sarai

One of my life goals is to succeed in packing two week’s worth of stuff in a carry-on bag.

Don’t laugh. I’ve done a lot of traveling, visiting every continent except Australia. On almost every trip, I’ve been weighed down by excess luggage. I recall my first journey to Bali, in the mid-1980s. I’d bought a new soft-sided bag, what seemed like a clever innovation with four small wheels on the bottom and zippers that allowed you to add capacity, in several stages. I wasn’t able to find a picture even on the Internet—that’s how long ago it was!—but imagine something like a vertically expandable rolling backpack. Plenty of space, I figured, plus with the wheels I wouldn’t have to carry it. I stuffed it to the gills. Then I spent hot, miserable hours dragging it behind me along the dirt roads in Legian, looking for a guest house.

In 2000, my husband and I took a dream vacation to Provence. Ten days. Four suitcases, two large and two small. We’d booked an intimate, atmospheric hotel on the harbor in Marseille, quintessentially French. I adored the place—except for the fact that it had no elevator, just lovely spiral staircases. Our room on the fourth floor had a wonderful view. What I recall most vividly, though, is wrestling those heavy bags up to the room, then down again. We had to do that twice each way, since we both arrived and departed from Marseille and stayed in the same hotel both times.

Never again, I swore. I’m going to be really careful on my next trip, taking nothing but the absolute essentials. Just one suitcase for the two of us. It would have to be bigger of course, and would be somewhat heavier, but surely a single bag would be easier to handle than two... That’s a fine theory, I discovered, as long as you’re not traveling by train in France, where many of the smaller stations have no lifts and no elevators. (I was a bit shocked at the lack of concern for handicapped passengers, to be honest.)

Why do I always end up packing so much? There are a number of reasons. For one thing, my travels often combine business and leisure. That means I need both formal and casual clothing, and the shoes to go with them.

Yes, shoes are a major problem. Another one of my life goals is to find a single pair of shoes comfortable and sturdy enough for walking miles, while still fancy enough to go with a suit or a dress. In fact, I can’t walk in any pair of shoes for more than a day. With my seriously pronated arches, I get blisters from any shoes if I wear them consistently. Thus, even for a few days away, I need several changes of footwear.

Another issue is weather. I live in a tropical climate. If I’m on my way to some place more temperate, I have to pack warmer clothing, including bulky outerwear, plus lighter items to wear on the way home.

Excuses, excuses!

Yes, I admit I usually pack more items than I need. I don’t want to have to figure out a week’s wardrobe ahead of time. I like to have a bit of choice about what to wear. Is that a sin?

If it is, it’s one I pay for in backaches and exhaustion.

We had a friend visit, back when I lived in the US, a woman from Scotland who was former stewardess. She’d come for a two week vacation, all the way from the UK, and was traveling across America. All she had in the way of luggage was a rolling suitcase that would easily fit in the bin above an airline seat. Yet she managed to look fabulous during her entire three day stay with us.

I realized after looking at what she carried that one key to traveling light is having the right clothes. You need stuff that is compressible and that won’t wrinkle. Everything needs to follow the same color scheme, so you can mix and match. Plus you need lightweight fabrics that you can wash, preferably by hand. If your destination is chilly, plan to wear layers rather than bringing individual warm but space consuming pieces.

I’m proud to report that I am getting better, though I haven’t yet truly met my goal. Lately my DH and I have been managing with a single medium-sized bag for all our clothing and toiletries, plus two carry ons. Those hold our laptops, tablets, cables, charges and other essentials of the twenty-first century. That’s something I didn’t need to worry about when I went to Bali.

At the end of September I’m off to Europe on business. It will be a relatively short trip, but I’m already stressed about packing. I’m especially concerned because I will likely still need crutches due to my broken leg. Clearly I can’t pull a suitcase behind me.

Some people have nightmares about monsters or murderers. As for me, I have a recurring anxiety dream about packing. The details vary, but it’s always a situation where I have only ten minutes before I leave on a trip. I have to select what to take, often no more than what will fit in a backpack. I race around, frantic, trying to make decisions about what’s essential.

I guess that’s the critical point: deciding what’s essential. For the upcoming trip, I’ve decided that it doesn’t matter what I look like. The main point is surviving the twelve hours in the plane, not freezing to death, and managing to get around while I’m there.

I wonder if I can do that with just a carry-on?


Sunday, April 1, 2012

Don't Change a Thing

By Lisabet Sarai

I've just struck it rich. I've won the lottery. A distant relative (too distant for me to grieve about) just died and left me her substantial fortune. One of my brilliant husband's clever ideas finally caught the attention it deserves from investors. The Weinberg brothers - no, make that Steven Soderbergh - read Raw Silk and decided it would make a great film. I'll never have to worry about money again.

What am I going to do with all this moola? What will I change?

Not much.

Thinking about Garce's topic for this week, I realized that there's very little about my life that I'd want to modify, even if I had near-unlimited cash.

I wouldn't buy a house. Been there, done that! At this stage in my life, having spent years chasing down contractors or fixing stuff myself, I love the freedom of having a landlord I can call when something breaks down. Sure, I fantasize about living in a ramshackle bungalow on the Maine coast, a gorgeous Victorian or even a Scottish castle, but I'd be satisfied with a week or so to savor those experiences - I don't need to own the buildings outright. Right now I live in an attractive apartment with more space than I can use (unbelievable as that might sound), in a fabulously convenient urban location. It has lovely garden, a swimming pool, an exercise room. Why would I want a house?

Definitely don't want a car! When we sold ours in preparation for moving to Asia, I felt as though a huge weight had been removed from around my neck. Sure, I enjoy driving around back roads and exploring new places, but I can rent a vehicle if I want to do that. No car means no insurance, no maintenance, no parking fees, no gasoline... You can have a couple of glasses of wine with dinner and not worry about killing yourself or someone else, or ending up in jail. Alternative modes of transit like subways and buses might be slower, but they give you a chance to interact with the world. A car insulates you from the rest of humanity. No, you can keep your Porsche or your Lexus, thank you very much.

So what else could that money buy? Clothing? I'll always be a bargain hunter - I learned at my Jewish grandmother's knee down in Filene's Basement. Jewels? I'd only lose them. Books? I can barely keep up with my current TBR list. Fancy electronic toys? I don't have an iPad or a smart phone, but at the moment I don't really miss them. And if I really wanted one of these modern must-haves, I could find the cash to purchase one without requiring that bequest.

Travel? Well, I guess if we had more money, we would do more traveling. We'd knock a few more exotic locales off our list of must-visit places. I'd go back to the U.S. more often to visit my family and friends. In honor of my sixtieth birthday next year, I'd throw a big party and invite all the people I care about whom I haven't seen in 'way too long. So yeah, that's one reason I'd like a bit of extra cash. But I might just do this anyway. You only turn sixty once.

If I were rich, I certainly wouldn't stop working. I love my job. I might spend more time writing if I didn't have to worry about making a living, but I value the variety in my current work life.

Probably the main reason I'd like to have more money is so I could give more of it away. I don't believe that cash can solve every problem in the world - intelligence and political will are far more important - but there are many causes that would benefit if I did happen to come into some cash.

Overall, though, I wouldn't change much at all. It would be relaxing not to have to worry about our big expenses, like health insurance. But honestly, the older I've become the more I've disengaged myself from material things. (Having to get rid of 80% of what I owned before our big move - and seeing how much we'd accumulated and how little we really needed - was a big factor in that transformation.)

It's a cliché but that doesn't mean it isn't true - money can't buy the things that really matter. I've got love, companionship, decent health, a roof over my head, friends, family, an occupation that lets me make a contribution to the world, a vocation (writing) that allows me to exercise my imagination. What else do I need? And if there were something major that I lacked, would money make a difference?

I doubt it.

(By the way, if any of you DO decide you'd like to leave me your fortune, please be assured that I won't refuse it!)