Sunday, February 6, 2011

Catechism

By Lisabet Sarai



“In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Ghost, amen.”

“That's good, but fold your hands at the end. It's a prayer, after all.”

“Yes, I know...In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost, amen.”

“Perfect. Now the Hail Mary...”

“Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with Thee. Blessed art Thou among women and blessed is the fruit of Thy womb Jesus... What does 'fruit of Thy womb' mean?”

“Her child, silly. 'Womb' is a fancy word for stomach.”

“Oh. Thanks.”

“I think you're ready. We'll do it tomorrow. But you can't tell anyone. If you do, you'll go to Hell.”

I was born into a Jewish family, so you might be surprised by how much I know about Roman Catholic ritual. I can recite the Hail Mary and the Lord's Prayer. I know the sacraments and the difference between a mortal and a venal sin. Given a bit of time to search my memory, I can probably tell you the names of many of the more important Catholic saints and explain why they were canonized.

The story behind all this knowledge? I was baptized a Catholic by my best friend when I was eight.

Bridget McNulty (not her real name) lived down the street from us with her parents and a constantly growing assortment of siblings. Her family were not fundamentalists, particularly by today's standards, but Bridget, the first born, was especially devout. She dreamed of becoming a missionary nun. And for some reason she decided that I should be her first convert.

Not that I put up any sort of fight. My religious upbringing was lackadaisical at best. We only went to synagogue (at my grandparents') on Rosh Hashonah and Yom Kippur. Hanukah meant gifts, potato pancakes and gambling with the little tops called dreidels. Passover was a chance to taste the wine and to look for the afikomen, the special piece of matzoh secreted away by the leader of the seder. The child who discovered its hiding place received a shiny quarter. I had little sense of the theological basis of my religion. Yet I think I must have harbored some sort of yearning for spiritual knowledge. When Bridget proposed that she tutor me in the details of her faith, I agreed with enthusiasm. Furthermore, I took my new knowledge seriously – far more seriously than the faith of my fathers.

Every day after school, I'd go over to her house to “play”. We'd crawl into our private place, a hollow inside her hedge, and she'd teach me about original sin and immaculate conception, communion and extreme unction. She set up an altar there, with a crucifix, and taught me to pray. Finally, when she decided that I had assimilated all the requisite information, she blessed some tap water and christened me with a new name.

The funny thing is, I remember much of this quite clearly, but I can't recall what we decided I should be called. Maybe Mary? Or Christine? Of course no one ever called me by that name – not even Bridget. In fact, after my baptism, she seemed to lose interest in our joint rituals to some extent.

A year or so later, Bridget's family moved to another town. My conversion stuck, however. I considered myself Catholic, although I scarcely knew what that meant. I worried about the end of the world. During the New England summer, you sometimes get this atmospheric phenomenon, where thunder clouds will be heaped up on the horizon but a few rays of sun slant through to reach the ground. The sharply defined beams of light look like paths upon which the angels would dance, coming down to announce the Apocalypse. On afternoons like these, I wondered if the prophesies were at last coming true.

(Of course, this was during the Cold War, when we all were sure that the Russians would drop the bomb any day. I figured that was the most likely way that the world would end.)

My secret conversion was responsible for engendering a sense of sexual sin. I didn't exactly know what the mortal sin of “adultery” meant, but I gathered it was something dirty. I started to feel guilty when I stuck my pillow between my legs and rocked back and forth until the good feelings came. I was uncomfortably certain that I was committing adultery, and that I was bound for eternal torment, or at least Purgatory.

It took quite a few years for me to get over the effects of Bridget's catechism. However, becoming a teenager brought so many more immediate problems than whether I'd go to hell that I forgot to worry about it. Still, I think the experience of conversion and the times I accompanied Bridget to Mass (my mother didn't care), listening to the Latin chants, breathing in the incense, inculcated a sense of reverence that I still feel today.

Bridget would probably be shocked if she knew how my life turned out: BDSM, bisexuality, ménages, swinging, and lots and lots of smut. The ultimate sin in her eyes would most likely be the fact that I've used Catholic rituals and beliefs in some of my stories, most notably “Communion” and “Higher Power”. I have to smile, wondering how I got from there to here.

At the same time, that experience touched something in me, wakened a hunger for spiritual experience that still gnaws me. Now, strangely enough, I feed that hunger by writing erotica. I find a connection to the Infinite in the connection with a lover. And I still pray, though I long ago abandoned the formulas Bridget taught.

The conversion is still a secret, too. I've never told anyone who's part of my “real life” that I've been baptized. (And I don't question whether the baptism was legitimate. Somehow I feel that if Bridget and I both believed it, then it was.) Only you, my readers and colleagues, who know my alter ego, are party to this forbidden knowledge.

Keep it quiet, okay? I don't want to go to Hell.

8 comments:

  1. It'll be our little secret, Lisabet.

    That's a wonderful story.

    And, you never know about what became of Bridget. She might appreciate your current self.

    It's my observation that often eroticists, and hedonists in general, have a streak of earnest piety lurking in their pasts. Especially those who took to it very young.

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  2. Hi Lisabet,

    I was raised a Catholic so I understand the pull of the ritual. Sadly, perhaps, my head always got in the way. I learnt my Catechism at 7. It started.
    Q: Who made me?
    A: God made me
    Q: Why did God make me?
    A: To know him lover him and serve him in this world and forever in the next.

    This got me into a string of questions - why is God so lonely? - how many worshippers does God need? - if God can do anything why does he need me to serve him? and so on and so on that almost prevented me from receiving my first Holy Communion.

    Thanks for this evocative memory

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  3. I was thinking about what Criag said in context of your story here. I wonder what became of your friend Bridget? What if she became an atheist, if something happened along the way and she lost her faith? She might even be an author on ERWA writing under a different name you don;t know about(Your baptised name wouldn;t be "Lisabet"? would it ?) and yet as part of the karmic trail of wreckage and change we leave behind us as we go, she brought you into the world of religion. It makes me wonder in what ways I may have affected people's lives that I will never know, people I may not even remember. If you think about this stuff, it can make you dizzy.

    Garce

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  4. That's a really interesting story, Lisabet. I hear it and for me, (who grew up with pretty strict Catholic parents in a big family) why would anyone choose Catholicism? Like my home town. I'm always amazed when I hear people moved here. On purpose. Why? There are some amazing stories in the Bible, but I don't understand the Catholic mindset at all, and I grew up in it.

    Thanks for sharing this story. As usual, now you've got me thinking...

    Jaime Samms

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  5. I won't tell anyone. Don't worry. Thanks for sharing your story with us!

    I was raised...athiest. I went to Catholic private schools because they were the best in the area. The experience has impacted me greatly. I'm still a secular individual, but I fell in love with Catholic churches (as in, the buildings). I like the stained glass and the incense, and the "calm" feeling I get when I'm there. I like how the saints are painted (in fact, I ordered one of those wooden bracelets with the saints last week). I think Catholic churches are sooo pretty.

    But Catholicism as a religion? No thanks. Pope Benedict looks like the Sith Lord from Star Wars. And don't get me started on his stance on condoms and homosexuals!

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  6. Good post. I was raised Catholic but I follow a hybrid version. It's what I believe, not what I was taught. Thanks for sharing. It's interesting how messed up we get over the teachings given in church. It takes a lifetime to get over them. If God hadn't wanted us to enjoy sex, then he shouldn't have made it feel so good!

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  7. Craig - I heard, somehow, that Bridget did not become a nun, but rather, a teacher. Now how do I know that? I don't remember. She probably has grand kids now.

    Mike - Despite my title, Bridget didn't teach me the actual catechism questions and responses. I'm rather astonished, though, that even at seven you were so full of skepticism, so analytical. Me - I believed in magic (literally).

    Garce - Certainly she influenced my life, but I really wonder if I influenced hers in any serious way. We were best friends for at least three or four years (though she went to parochial school, while I went to public school), but nothing I did or said (as far as I know) would have changed her path. Then again, you never know.

    Jaime - I find the political, authoritarian Catholic hierarchy abhorrent. However, Catholic mysticism still draws me. It's a surprisingly sensual religion, compared to the austerity of most Protestant sects. Of course that was the point of the Reformation... that the elaborate ritual of Catholicism distracted people from God.

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  8. V.C. - I hear you. I also love the feeling one gets in some churches. My view is that we're all groping for some understanding of ourselves and the universe. Religion arises out of that desire for knowledge. But the organized church isn't about spirituality at all, it's about power (imho).

    She - Ultimately, I think that the people most at peace with themselves are the ones who come up with a hybrid set of beliefs, a spiritual perspective that they can live with. "Hybrid" certainly describes me. My belief system includes elements of Catholicism, Judaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Wicca ...!

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