My
brother and I stroll along Wingaersheek Beach in Gloucester, whipped
by the chill April wind. My decision to live overseas and his
aversion to travel don't leave us many chances to talk face to face.
Every visit becomes a massive attempt at catching up.
“You're
such a great writer,” he comments. I glow at the praise, coming
from someone so massively creative. He makes his living as a
songwriter and musician, leaving me in something like awe.
“So
I don't know why you don't write a serious book, instead of this—this
erotic stuff.” He doesn't say it, but I hear “porn” in his
tone of voice. My spirits crash land, though it's hardly news that he
feels this way. I really want him to be proud of me and my
accomplishments in the world of publishing. Instead, he fundamentally
disapproves of my work. The graphic sexuality embarrasses and
disturbs him. (“I don't want to get turned on when I read,” he
told me once.) Despite all my explanations about power exchange,
trust and consent, he still believes that M/f dominance and
submission is sexist and abusive. In addition, I strongly suspect he
views any sort of genre fiction as something less than worthy. We are
obliquely related to a very famous literary author whose long shadow
falls over all our artistic endeavors.
“My
books are serious,” I protest. “Sex and desire are
serious topics. We can't understand the human condition without
exploring our sexuality.” I don't know why I bother arguing,
though. I'm not going to change his mind. And after all, he's hardly
alone in harboring these opinions. Scads of people would label what I
write “trash”. Some of them would go further, calling my novels
“obscene filth”, even “the work of Satan”.
I
shouldn't listen. But it's tough to avoid being influenced by
negative evaluations, especially when they come from people close to
you. My sister is more polite and less extreme than my brother.
Still, she's only read one or two of my books (which didn't include
BDSM), and shows no interest in reading more.
They're
both intelligent, thoughtful people. If they view my work as “not
serious”, maybe they're right.
I
didn't choose my genre, though. It chose me. Despite my illustrious
relative (by marriage), I never imagined myself making a career out
of being an author. (Lucky thing...) Still, I've been writing all my
life. Nobody showed me how, or particularly encouraged me, yet I
created poems and stories from the time I was six or seven. Writing
seemed a natural extension of reading, which was an activity in which
I indulged at every opportunity. Stories to read, stories to write:
one catalyzed the other.
Meanwhile,
as I matured, love and desire became my mirror for understanding
life. My early sexual and romantic experiences, especially my first
(and thus far only) BDSM relationship, profoundly affected my view of
the world, my philosophy, my spirituality and my sense of
self. I was writing about desire, love and sex long before I ever
considered publishing my tales.
My
husband is less judgmental than my siblings. He enjoys erotica,
though he has no tolerance for kink or for homoerotic content. Still,
every now and then, he suggests I should switch to a more mainstream
genre. “Why not write a mystery?”, he asks. “Or a science
fiction novel?” I love both these genres, when done well, but I
know already that if I turned my hand to either, I wouldn't be able
to avoid adding at least some sexual content.
What
about so called “literary fiction”? That's what my brother means
by “serious”, I'm quite sure. I'd love to have the talent and
vision of Barbara Kingsolver, or Sarah Waters, or Haruki Murakami,
but I have no illusions. I don't think I have the necessary depth.
Mostly I just like to tell stories. Most of my stories have at least
a passing concern with sex and desire.
So
I guess that means I'm not “serious”, but I'm not sure I want to
be either. I just finished reading Our Tragic Universe by
Scarlett Thomas. The main character Meg has a contract to write a literary novel.
Over the past three years, she has written, and then deleted, about
500,000 words. Every time she has a new idea, she builds it into the
book. When she picks up the manuscript again, though, she finds she
has lost all confidence in her original inspiration, and deletes it all.
Meanwhile,
she supports herself writing science fiction books so successful that
they've been optioned for a TV show, as well as a wildly popular
young adult adventure series that has turned into a franchise. Every
year she runs training workshops for other authors who want to
ghost-write “Zeb Ross” books.
Because
she can't seem to finish her “serious” novel, however, Meg
considers herself a failure as an author.
I
write books that make my sister blush and my brother squirm, books
that Amazon bans, books that mean I have to hide my true identity and
can't share my publishing accomplishments with many people. I'd love
to get some recognition, but I'm not willing to twist my creativity
into unnatural directions. I'm willing to sacrifice possible fame and
fortune—or at least the respect of my family—for artistic
integrity. If that's not serious, I don't know what is.