When I started writing erotic novels, I used to wonder how much sex is too much. Years a go it seemed there never could be enough. Nowadays though I notice that a lot of reviews contain opinions like, 'one sex scene after another with no plot to speak of' or 'I started skimming over the sex scenes, there were just too many of them'.
Strange, I thought, if you're reading an erotic novel, how can there be too much sex? Lately though I've come to the same opinion. I'm not opposed to the number of sex scenes, but OMG it's the length of some of those sessions that boggles the mind, and makes me start counting the pages to find out when the protagonists will finally collapse from sheer exhaustion.
Sex is sex, and there are only so many variations on the theme. Some authors have come up with several more that are, quite frankly impossible, and I would imagine extremely painful. And how quickly the guys recover after spilling their load. Maybe at age twenty, but not men in their mid thirties and forties no matter how gorgeous their partner is or how fantastic he is in the sack. There still has to be recovery time, and those who are ready to go again while still 'sheathed' just want to make me laugh, not gasp with awe or envy.
I love writing erotica, and I love reading it too, but I do want a decent story and believable characters at the same time. Is this too much to ask? I don't think so. Sometimes in on line interviews I'll be asked what advice I'd give to a fledgling author. Well, I'm not arrogant enough to believe my pearls of wisdom have any merit. I only have several years of writing experience and you do learn some stuff along the way. So I'm not afraid to say, 'Love what you do, learn your craft and write about characters that people can like, believe in and ultimately wish the best for'. I could add I suppose, don't just write sex scene after sex scene with only a few lines for everyone to take a deep breath.