Friday, April 11, 2008

Of course you know in some cultures....

...i began with a sly grin on my face. My too young date just started laughing. "Are you really going to go down that road?" (she had obviously heard this line before - necessarily from an old guy!)

Of course guys like older women. I remember in the 4th grade being in love with my teacher Mrs. Sullivan! As I have gotten older I have to admit the pendulum has swung a little the other direction. I have buddies who praise me when I go out with a girl that is significantly younger. I have to admit, I am disappointed when I find out a girl I like is in the “too young” category (whatever that is!) I am an equal opportunity dater and have dated girls in their 20’s as well as in their 40’s. Common denominator, I was attracted to them in some way given the mix of variables (fun, pretty to me, intelligent, full of life…)

What I discovered is….

The Young Ones: Fun to hang out with. Generally not looking for a commitment. Full of life and energy. Nice arm candy. The downside: If things were to get serious they generally want kids. I had to play out in my mind the whole what am I going to say to her dad and how would I introduce the future step mom to my kids – ha! The big downside, this nagging fear in the back of my mind that they would wake up ten or twenty years later and say “man you’re old!”

My age: Went out with one lady my age who was classy, very pretty, well established…and turns out still in a relationship! Another lady my age grilled me on the first date and ended up having massive issues. Not much luck in that arena.

Girls in the 29-35 range. Perfect. Old enough to know better (whatever that means!) yet young enough to be fun and energetic. My self determined sweet spot. I went out with a girl tonight who is cute as a button (only old guys say that!) My friends who saw her picture on the internet kept asking “how old is she?” to which I had to reply, “I don’t know, afraid to ask.” Great dinner, much in common, then she finds out I have a 20 year old son. She asks THE question, “How old are you?” “45 I reply” She laughs. She tells me to guess how old she is. I wince and say “I’m afraid to ask”. Turns out…she’s 29….this could be the one. ☺

8 comments:

  1. When I was twenty, I enjoyed the company of a 40-yr-old for 2 weeks. I got a kick out of the fact I was only 2 years older than his son!

    And after that, went out with him twice more whenever I was in town, which was roughly every six months. And I wasn't too disappointed when he eventually married another woman closer to his age. So yeah, in that Young Ones category, you were dead on!

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  2. Good luck with that! NOt only are you our token male, you're the only one currently inthe dating pool. Thanks for the different perspective.

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  3. Oooh, Daren. I think you should go for her. She has a great sense of humor!!! I'm just not into the whole age disparity crap. If you like her, you should see her. Bottom line.

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  4. Hey Daren, it looks like you know how to enjoy life. Maybe we should learn from you. LOL. I hope my very dear hubby doesn't read that.

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  5. Sigh. I have a daughter her age. My baby daughter. She has a ten year old and a four year old. I can't even envision being twenty-nine with no children. Enjoy.

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  6. It's great to hear a man's point of view about dating and love. I'd love to hear it more often.

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  7. Seriously I think it's best I don't comment....I want to but I won't... are you serious?

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