Dominant meets Submissive

by Kim Dare.

I’d like to start by introducing you to two men.

First there is Luke. Blond hair and blue eyes. He’s twenty one and gorgeous - and he knows it.

Then there is Dexter. Tall, dark and intensely dominant. He’s an established master on the local BDSM scene.

Luke happens to think he’ll make a damn good submissive and that Dexter is just the man to be his new master.

Dexter, on the other hand, knows full well that Luke is nothing more than a spoilt little brat who’s been annoying the hell out of him for the last three weeks - nagging for them to do a scene together in a very unsubmissive way.

Still, Luke is very cute, and Dexter can’t help wonder if there just might be the makings of a reasonable submissive lurking deep down inside the younger man.

An initiation is about to take place.

Luke is about to find out what it means to submit to Dexter. He’s going to find out what it’s like to surrender all control of himself and his immediate future to a man he barely knows. He’s going to agree to obey the other man’s rules and accept his punishments. He’s going to be strung up from the cuffs bolted to the ceiling. He’s going to kneel at Dexter's feet, call him sir and take his first steps into the unknown.

But don’t forget about Dexter – he’s not just an idle spectator in all this. He’s going through his own little initiation too. It might not be the first scene he’s done and Luke might be far from his first lover, but he’s about to find out what it means to dominant over this man rather than over anyone else.

You see, Dexter is a good dominant and every good dominant knows that there’s no such thing as a one size fits all scene. So, he’s learning about where Luke’s particular limits are. He’s discovering the other man’s strengths and weaknesses and how to manipulate both of those things to their mutual enjoyment. He’s finding out what makes Luke squirm and what makes him gasp with pleasure and beg to come.

Initiations are often about proving yourself, and this one is no different. Luke needs to prove that he can submit - and that he can enjoy doing that. He has to prove to Dexter that he's fully capable of setting aside when he wants and thinking only of his master's pleasure - even if it proves to be frustrating or uncomfortable at times. Earlier on this week, some pointed out that initiations are often painful. Luke may well need to prove that he can accept that too. Lucky for him he’s a masochist as well as a submissive - he's going to enjoy that bit of the process ;)

Likewise, Dexter has a lot to prove. He has to demonstrate that he knows what he's doing, that he knows how the difference between a dominant and a complete pillock who's just using another person because they can. He has to show that he knows when it's important to set aside what he wants for what Luke needs.

The line between the initiate and the initiator isn't always as clear as it seems.

But, between them both, they are using this initial initiation scene as a way of working out how to turn the large scale tribal rules and ideas of BDSM into something that’s specific to and perfect for them.

And, because they happen to live in one of my books, they are also taking their first steps towards living happily ever after together.

I suppose that brings me to the third person who I should be introducing you to today.

Me.

I’m pretty much just the person who’s head these characters live inside.

Luke and Dexter turned up entirely uninvited and unexpected when I first heard the topic for this week’s blog post. Depending on how long they decide they want to stick around inside my imagination, my might yet make it into one of my full length stories.

So, what can Luke and Dexter expect if that happens? What do I write?

First and foremost, I write BDSM. The full spectrum from a little bit of tie up and tease, featuring characters who wonder if it might be fun to introduce a pair of handcuffs into their bedroom, and all the way through to other character who live the complete lifestyle 24/7.

I write Male/male and Male/female pairings, with a few threesomes thrown in here and there when the mood strikes. Most of the stories have a straight forward contemporary set up, with a bit of paranormal thrown in when the vampires and the werewolves turn up and want to join in the fun. And the stories are all erotic romances with a happy ending. Never have liked to read anything with an unhappy ending, so I'm not going to start writing them.

There's not a lot else to say really.

I'm 25 years old, from Wales, UK, and a relatively new author publishing with Total-e-bound.

My first novella was accepted last summer. The first one to be released - The Gift - came out last Christmas. I've got another 10 scheduled to come out this year. Starting with Secret Service next Monday.

I have a website and a blog and a something like a real-world life, but, yeah, I'm pretty much just the person whose head various kinky characters live inside.

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Great to meet you all.

Kim Dare.
Kink, love and a happy ending. Do you Dare?