A topic near and dear to my heart this week and unfortunately, it's my last post as a member of the OGG family. Life has tossed a few stumbling blocks under my feet and I've had to trim my obligations. I shall miss you all and hope to visit often. You're fantastic people here, readers and authors both. Thank you!
Now, on to femdom and some of it's most amazing aspects.
As some of you may know, I began my writing career writing femdom. I've been scribbling stories about how women control men for years and have always felt very comfortable telling their stories, as well as the stories of their men. There are so many scenarios to play with here. School teacher/student, Mistress/slave, Mistress/pony, naughty neighbor/infuriated woman next door, wanna be toy/for hire Dominatrix, spaceship captain/humble slave from the ships hold, to name just a few.
I adore strong women and get very annoyed when I see those movies where the simpering young fem squeals prettily while a knife wielding man threatens her. The gun laying on the table beside her is forgotten. The dumbass woman simply waits for the hero to save her.
WTF!
Grab the gun lady and blow the guys head off. Yes!
I mean for crying out loud. Would you just cringe and scream? I mean, really? I may not grab the gun, you never know that one until it happens, but I'd be doing more than squealing prettily, that's for sure.
Being in control. That's what femdom is, and for that matter it's also what male domination is. Whether it's taking control, or being offered it by the submissive, it's still having the ability to control not only yourself, but the knowledge and ability to control the other person. Sounds kind of bothersome, doesn't it?
Nah. It's fun. I'll toss in a couple of samples here. Remember, the men in my stories are willing/eager victims, and that's huge.
He knew the voice; it was hers. The husky whisper was a huge turn on for him, and she knew it. He'd told her often enough. He tried to turn and look at her but couldn't swing his head far enough. "I thought this was just going to be an interview, a first meeting, not the real thing." Even to his own ears, it sounded lame. Her laughter came as no surprise.
"No, this is it, sweetheart. The real thing."
He heard the tapping of her shoes behind him, pacing back and forth. They halted, directly behind him.
"You paid good money for this, and I have the time now. So relax."
The way she said it made him feel anything but relaxed. He struggled against the rubber holding him tightly to the wall. Even the wall seemed to be well padded, nothing bruised. He was naked inside the suit, of that he was sure. Embarrassment sent a shiver through him. "But, I…uh…I'm not sure I'm ready." Again, a lame confession, and one he wasn't sure was true.
"I am." She stepped closer.
The puff of air against his cheek wafted across his nose. He was sure it was her breast pressinf against his back. At least, he wanted to believe it was. His cock throbbed. He gasped. It was free! Somehow, whoever had bound him had left his cock and balls exposed to the open air. Heart racing, his mouth went dry. Tentatively, he flexed his abdominal muscles and felt his cock sway. Her hands on his back forced his attention away from his groin. They moved along his spine, the material so thin, so tactile friendly, he felt every touch of her fingers from high up between his shoulder blades to just above the crack of his ass. She tested and tugged at the buckles that, no doubt, held him firmly in place.
"W-what are you going to do to me?" he asked, afraid of the answer, praying she'd do what they'd discussed—wondered if she knew the rest. Thoughts in turmoil, he closed his eyes and heard his heart beating while he waited for her to reply.
"I'm going to do exactly what I want to do to you."
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Yum! There's no beating or torture, the man even though he's been bound and couldn't get away if he wanted to, is very turned on. That's the lady's idea of fun. His too, big time. Of course in Vertical Tease, the fellow actually sought out the woman and paid for her services, that's not always the case. I would dare say, it's not what happens most of the time. I would actually hope that for most men, and women, this is something done in a loving relationship. Something they've talked about a great deal and agreed upon.
As in any relationship, communications is important thing. While any long term pairing takes work and talk, it's even more important if one partner is going to take control of the other. You have to know how far the submissive partner wants to go, or is willing to go. You have to make sure you don't do something that could harm the other. The submissive partner has to know, deep down, he or she can trust their partner to stop immediately if they're not happy with what's going on, or if there's more pain than they're able or willing to take. Whatever. Trust and talking, HUGE!! Without it, the scene could be classed as abuse, and has been on many occasions. And I don't want to even go there. Talk or just don't do it.
I also believe, and this is just MY opinion, that men and women have different reasons for wanting to both dominate and/or submit to another. Men are raised to be in control of themselves and everything around them. From the few submissive men I've spoken to, they crave a time when they can completely let that go. They want to relinquish their power and responsibility to someone else. They may not want it to be in any other way but sexual, but sometimes it can be more.
Women, on the other hand, have been raised to submit, to some extent. Not so much now, but there is still that hint of it in our child rearing. Women are accustomed to it, and some fight it, while others may embrace it. They feel right when submitting, they can relinquish any responsibility of sexual excitement, after all, nice girls still aren't supposed to like sex in some cases. If they are forced to climax, it's not their fault.
I've got to assume this has something to do with at least some of the submissives. I'm not going to assume I've got all the answers, or even most of them. These just feel right to me. I'm also going to assume there are more reasons or explanations than just those. I'm also going to assume, that being either dominant or submissive is something like being gay or lesbian. You don't choose it, it's part of who you are.
Gasp... felt like I was teaching class again. Mr. Lister, I believe that'd be your job.
Now for a sexy young couple who really enjoy their time together. They've talked about adding a friend to their play, but little did Rick realize, today was the day and OMG it's her!
"I want you to have a shower now, and make sure you're shaved." Cass flicked the tip of his erection with a finger, and laughed when it twitched from side to side. His scrotum puckered, and his balls itched even more. "But, make sure you don't masturbate. I'll pop in sometime during your shower to watch. If I catch you playing with yourself, you'll get both a flogging and be denied an orgasm."
"Yes, Mistress," he'd replied.
Cass got to her feet, and added, "On your feet, but keep your legs apart."
Rick had climbed to his feet. He'd curled his fingers into fists to keep them away from his crotch. The frustration mounted even higher when he'd made his way to the bathroom. His genitals swayed, the air wafted around his balls.
He'd showered and shaved, paying special attention to his genitals. Even just being able to touch and pull at the skin eased his torment somewhat. Not enough though, and by the time he'd finished, he was as horny as he could ever remember being. The anticipation of what was going to happen was the culprit, and he tried not to think about what Cass had planned. But the more he tried to concentrate on something else, the more his mind refused, and came back to the days ahead.
Cass had come in, and sat on the toilet watching him as he shaved the stubble around the root of his cock. Running the safety blade over his balls, he'd pulled and stretched the skin, ensuring a clean shave. She chuckled when he groaned, and even offered to help him with his bottom. He'd turned off the shower, re-lathered and bent forward for her, and tried desperately to hold still while she ran the blade carefully between his cheeks. Done, she'd left him trembling and told him to make sure he rinsed well.
While he stood toweling himself, he'd heard the doorbell chime. His stomach tightened. Could he go through with it?
The bathroom door had opened. It was Cass, smiling, eager. "Now is your last chance to stop this. Once I take you out of here, you'll obey me or be punished."
His mind had been numb. Excitement and apprehension warred for a moment while he stood trembling on the white tiled floor. "Kiss me," he'd croaked. For that moment he'd felt vulnerable and alone, but when she came into his arms, his world felt complete and wonderful. She washis soul mate, his lady, and the only person in the world who understood him. She went into his arms, hers wrapping around his neck and pulling his lips to hers. It was his turn to take control, if only for a few moments of sheer bliss. Bodies melded to each other, tongues twined around the others, and breath mingled as they lost themselves in each other. Too soon the kiss ended. Neither moved for the longest time, but then it was as if a signal had been given.
Rick looked deep into his lady's eyes, and said, "Yes, I'm ready, Mistress."
Cass pulled out of his arms and took a deep breath. The bodice of her slip dress showed how erect her nipples were, and her chest above the silk dappled with a flush. "Heel me," she'd said, and turning, left the bathroom.
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And here's a little something, by request. Thank you Lisabet. This short bit of fiction was included in Cream: The Best of the Readers and Writers Association...gasp. Quite a handle, don't you think? But a book filled with the most amazing erotica you'll find anywhere. Here's my little flasher:
"What would you like, pet?" I asked, standing at his side. My hand, on his naked upturned ass, felt the heat of our last hour's session.
"More - please," he moaned, squirming, trying to rub his straining cock against something, anything.
"More?" I quipped, knowing.
"Spank me!" he growled. I watched his testicles pull in tight. A finger meandered around them, then upwards to his crinkled brown star, pressing mischievously inside. "Yes… Oh God, fuck me."
"Fuck or spank?"
Lustful indecision made him hesitate.
"I'll be back in an hour for your choice." I shut the door and heard him howl.
As you can see, this really is a topic I could go on about for days. I'll refrain and just say, different strokes for different folks. Just because your neighbor might like to have his butt warmed by his wife, doesn't mean he's odd. He's no more odd than the man who likes to wear his wife's panties or the woman who can't get off unless the lights are turned off. We all have our kinks. As long as you're talking and not doing something to harm each other, in my books, it's all good. Even a well warmed bum is a good thing, if that's what you enjoy. Try it, you might find you like it. Honest!
Oh, and if you are interested in reading a few of my femdom tales, try my collection in, Yes, Ma'am The Question (100 words)
© 2002 Jude Mason
© 2002 Jude Mason
"What would you like, pet?" I asked, standing at his side. My hand, on his naked upturned ass, felt the heat of our last hour's session.
"More - please," he moaned, squirming, trying to rub his straining cock against something, anything.
"More?" I quipped, knowing.
"Spank me!" he growled. I watched his testicles pull in tight. A finger meandered around them, then upwards to his crinkled brown star, pressing mischievously inside. "Yes… Oh God, fuck me."
"Fuck or spank?"
Lustful indecision made him hesitate.
"I'll be back in an hour for your choice." I shut the door and heard him howl.
* * *
As you can see, this really is a topic I could go on about for days. I'll refrain and just say, different strokes for different folks. Just because your neighbor might like to have his butt warmed by his wife, doesn't mean he's odd. He's no more odd than the man who likes to wear his wife's panties or the woman who can't get off unless the lights are turned off. We all have our kinks. As long as you're talking and not doing something to harm each other, in my books, it's all good. Even a well warmed bum is a good thing, if that's what you enjoy. Try it, you might find you like it. Honest!
Inside, you'll find:
An Acquired Taste
Pink Ribbon
Stage Fright
Amber's Toy
Ritual and Ceremony
A Fantasy Appointment
An Acquired Taste
Pink Ribbon
Stage Fright
Amber's Toy
Ritual and Ceremony
A Fantasy Appointment
Yeah, an unabashed plug, but hey, it's my last post, so I'm being bad.
It's been a blast and I will be back to comment often, so you won't lose me entirely. Good luck and best wishes to you all. If you'd like to keep up with me, here are my links:
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Jude,
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing as impressive as watching someone go out in style. A fantastic post. A lot of good points and classy writing, and proof of all the reasons why you'll be missed.
Take care,
Ash
Hi Jude,
ReplyDeleteGreat post on a topic near and dear to your heart!
You've had a great run here at the Grip. Your style and wit will be missed, but I'm pretty sure I'll still see you around. *G*
Hugs!
Jenna
Lady, you will be missed! Especially since as I read your posts I realize you and I are very much alike. I'm with you on the "Why are you standing there screaming when you could be taking this guy out with one well-placed kick?!" But then, I know how to make that well-placed kick ;)
ReplyDeleteAs I said, you will be missed. Come back often!
A perfect post! I knew that I'd learn something from an expert!
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong with blowing you own horn, either, and I wasn't aware you had a femdom collection... not to say that I'm surprised.
Thanks for your unique contributions to the Grip. I hope you will drop in often.
Love,
Lisabet
Ash,
ReplyDeleteAw, thank you so much. I will definitely be around. I plan to harass you all as much as I have time for. OGG is a great place to check out the talent. Thank you for such kind words.
Hugs
Jenna,
ReplyDeleteIf you don't see me around, phone me. That'd mean my internet is screwed and I'm suffering from major withdrawal. LOL Thanks so much for stopping by.
Hugs
Helen,
ReplyDeleteI was never in the military, there was never a military presence anywhere close enough for me to become a part of. LOL My father was a commando in England though and he made sure his daughter knew how to defend herself... hehe! Ain't saying I could kill anyone, but add hubby's teaching with firearms, and I don't feel uncomfortable when I'm alone.
I've really enjoyed getting to know you and the others where at the Grip. You're all special people and I'll miss the deadline. You just take care and I'll be around often to check up with you.
Hugs
Lisabet,
ReplyDeleteThank you for holding the OGG together when it very easily could have faded into nothing. It's been a great run for me and I've really enjoyed my time with you. I will definitely be around checking up on you from the sidelines.
I'm not so sure about being an expert, but I do love the genre. Strong women going after what they want is a good thing. Strong men knowing what they want and being brave enough to submit, well what more could a woman ask for?
Take care and thank you.
Hugs
Good luck with your other ventures. I'll miss your articles in OGAG.
ReplyDeleteNot a lot I can add to what has already been said. You'll be missed. I always enjoyed your posts, but this last one is a realy doozy!
ReplyDeleteBill,
ReplyDeleteI will definitely be around. I've truly had a blast on the Grip and plan to visit often. Thank you so much for stopping by. I'll see you around.
Hugs
Verb,
ReplyDeleteI could be naughty and say this last post was all for you... hehehe! I'll behave and just say, I will be around and writing.
Thank you so much
Hugs
Hey Jude!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear you'll be leaving us. You'll be missed. Pop in and talk to us from time to time.
Garce
Garce,
ReplyDeleteThat's the plan. I couldn't just let you guys go. I'm much too nosy and too interested in what you've all got to say. Thank you so much.
Hugs
Fab final 'regular' post, altho I'm sure we'll rope you into comments and the occasional guest post.
ReplyDeleteI'll be missing you here, but be seeing you around...case in point, I worked on Stallion tonight. ;)
Devon,
ReplyDeleteThanks so much. I hope you enjoy Stallions Pride. Was fun to put together even if the series was supposed to have ended with the previous book. LOL
Yup, I'll be around and definitely commenting on posts.
Hugs
Hey Jude
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I will miss your posts here...:(
take care
Chloe