I have never been a fan of the "you can look but you can't touch". That's why i have never plunged full throttle into pornography (that plus i am afraid i would like it too much and end up in a 12 step program! :) Pornography and Erotica are pointers. They are road signs. They point to the destination but are unsettling as destinations in and of themselves (at least for me). It's like getting stuck at the roadside attraction on your way to Disney World.
God? Sex? He invented it! Sex, making love, is emotional communion. It is as close as you can get to another person (and God) in many ways. It is true union. The shame is that the 'church' has missed this for many years. Stop in any town and ask where the people who have crazy, intimate, passionate sex is and i doubt they point to the local church but isn't that how it should be...
A friend of mine is proud that i have never been to a gentleman's club (and all my buddies want to be the first to take me!) In reality, it is as much about not wanting to torture myself (and spending money to do it!) as it is anything else. C.S. Lewis said its like putting a steak on the stage and having people salivate over it. What is the point if you can't eat it! (Yes, i know what you are thinking! :)
Maybe erotica tends to arouse and point to the object where pornography attempts to become the object on its own. I don't know, i am so confused. All i know is anything that stirs the body, mind, and spirit to a large degree has to point somewhere.
A surprisingly romantic view for a man. Very good post! Not at all what I expected!ReplyDelete
I'm stunned, Daren. This is beautiful...not that you aren't a beautiful person. :-) Because you ARE but you are definitely on to something. Most men just flock to porn as they do to "gentlemen's clubs" but it takes a strongly grounded guy to admit he likes the romance more and I think you do and you're brave enough to admit it. I think men might be drawn to porn and stripper because they are afraid to commit emotionally and these thinks don't require an emotional response.ReplyDelete
Hmmm. I'm still thinking about this.
Hugs to YOU!!!
Anny and Regina, hugs to you both!!!ReplyDelete
Gee, impressive - I almost believe youReplyDelete
Fascinating. There speaks a well-grounded fully functioning adult male of the species, going on the written evidence *grin*.ReplyDelete
Actually, I suspect Daren is speaking for well-grounded adults full stop, regardless of gender.
Erotica is window-shopping for what you *really* want, while porn is grabbing whatever's on the sale-rail just because it's on the sale-rail?
Great post, Daren. It is as close as you can get to another person (and God) made the song Closer by NIN leap to mind. :DReplyDelete
excellent points. very nicely said.ReplyDelete